cant they let him grow up?
 

i went to my first alanon meeting this morning. and im goin again tonight. i met a few great people who gave me their numbers and i am going to call if i need to.
and i know i will. my husband has been staying in a motel for the last week or so, not going to work. so this morning his sister calls me and says he needs a doctors note to go back to work. i say ok.. and (unbelievable!!) she says, can you make him an appointment? i said no im not his mother. thats when i knew i needed to start going to meetings.

I stopped lying for him months ago. I made it clear to him that I would no longer cover for his b.s. We are all there with you kiddo.

Hugs

The sad thing is, many people won't "let" others take responsibility for their own behaviour as adults, addiction or not. I believe that one of the greatest gifts I can give is to step aside and let another learn from their own actions. That is the only place from which growth comes. That does not mean I find it easy. Actually, I do find it easy to do, but have a hard time dealing with the surrounding emotions.

Good for you for realising this and for getting to meetings. Others have to learn in the own sweet time.

all you can do is continue with alanon and lead by example. blessings, k

Keep going back! ((()))

The journey begins. It takes at least 6 mtgs. before you know if AlAnon is right for you. It changed my life bec I learned how to feel, deal + heal. It has changed me so that I am better in all my relationships and my heart is accessible. Welcome to the neightborhood. Your response to your sister-in -law indicates that you are ready willing and able to become the best you that you can be and that is really what
Al-Anon is all abt.

nice:)