My husabnd has slipped
 

My husband is trying to quit and was sober for 13 days and he took a few drinks on the 14th day and lied when I asked about it as well as the same tonite, the 16th day. I approached him with wanting a divorce, a protection against abuse order ( which I dropped ) and my family had turned against him, all of this which he said made him want to quit and he said he no longer had the desire. He has been a heavy whiskey drinker for the last 12 years and is facing a pending felony DUI charge which he is innocent of. This pending charge is driving him nuts and along with the alcohol he has became violent toward me. I am at my limits but decided to give him one more chance recently, only to be lied to and he is showing signs of starting up again. I need help on what I need to do to help him at this point, as I truly believe he wants help but will not reach out for it. any replys will be so greatly appreciated.....thank you

Welcome to the forums Jusbecawz,

First off let me say, I can relate to your story. My hubby just drank again after months sober, took my car, drove it under a fence and into a tree and is facing a DUI charge.....not sure what number this is.

I have always been supportive of him when he would seek out sobriety, but ultimately I knew it had to be his choice, he needed to want to stop and there was nothing I could to do to make him stop, no matter what I tried.

So I went to an Al-Anon meeting and I found this site. And now I work on taking care of me, because hubby is the only one who can take care of him. By taking care of me, I can only hope that some of the positive things I have learned over flows to him.

I don't have any great words of wisdom but I just wanted to let you know, you aren't alone. Many share the same things that are going on with you. Take a look around, read the power posts which are stickys at the top of the Al-Anon and Nar-Anon forums, they are very good reading.

I hope you stick around and come to know what a great place this is and how wonderful and supportive everyone is here.

You take care of you.

Many hugs,
Debbie

WHat is the charge that he is not guilty of? Was someone else driving or what?