Just fired him
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Can you get to A.A meetings? I found when I was going through the breakup with my ex going to lots of A.A meetings for my sobriety helped me incredibly.
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Originally Posted by Pilgrim 
Hi Earthworm. Thanks for the advice.
I saw the exact parallel between picking you the phone and picking up a drink this afternoon after my children left me for two weeks. Both would have taken me away from a spiritual connection and would have lead to misery.
I woke up in the night in a huge panic. Who would watch and care for the animals when I am away in two weeks? How am I going to cope with my workload now?
I have found a housesitter already. I think the work thing will be ok. There are a lot of things to catch up on - things he never got around to doing. Now I know it is up to me and he is not there to "pretend" he is doing them, should make things more clear cut.
I am worried he will just show up tomorrow morning like nothing has happened and I will have to go through it all again.
I still love him and this is still hard.
I saw the exact parallel between picking you the phone and picking up a drink this afternoon after my children left me for two weeks. Both would have taken me away from a spiritual connection and would have lead to misery.
I woke up in the night in a huge panic. Who would watch and care for the animals when I am away in two weeks? How am I going to cope with my workload now?
I have found a housesitter already. I think the work thing will be ok. There are a lot of things to catch up on - things he never got around to doing. Now I know it is up to me and he is not there to "pretend" he is doing them, should make things more clear cut.
I am worried he will just show up tomorrow morning like nothing has happened and I will have to go through it all again.
I still love him and this is still hard.
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Here, let's put it this way,
He probably will show up tomorrow morning, they do that. It's all part of the manipulation. Ask your HP for the strength to deal with it.
It's step one "We admitted we were powerless over the actions of others, our life had become unmanageable."
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He probably will show up tomorrow morning, they do that. It's all part of the manipulation. Ask your HP for the strength to deal with it.
It's step one "We admitted we were powerless over the actions of others, our life had become unmanageable."
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are there other employees? Make sure everyone knows that he no longer works there and will be escorted off the premises if he shows up. Do you have any security guys? or anyone physically imposing, or that he is afraid of? I think your prediction that he will show up as usual on Monday is not at all far fetched when dealing with an active A. they like to pretend that everything's fine, that nothing bad has happened.
That took incredible strength, Pilgrim! it's so hard to fire someone even when there's no familial or codie relationship. You did what you had to do, and you didn't do anything to him that he had not driven you to. You are moving forward with your life!
That took incredible strength, Pilgrim! it's so hard to fire someone even when there's no familial or codie relationship. You did what you had to do, and you didn't do anything to him that he had not driven you to. You are moving forward with your life!
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Thanks Earthworm and Mushroom. All very earthy and fungal this morning aren't we. Sort of damp.
I went to a meeting last night Earthworm. Thanks for the advice. I am about to hit the shower and go to work. There is one other at work but he doesn't get in until later in the morning. I will definitely be praying to my HP to be with me. I will be really very surprised if he doesn't come into work as if what I said was nothing.
Saying that I didn't do anything to him that he had not driven me to do, has helped me a lot with my serenity this morning (which was a bit hard to find) so thank you lots and lots.
I'll let you know what happens.
xx
I went to a meeting last night Earthworm. Thanks for the advice. I am about to hit the shower and go to work. There is one other at work but he doesn't get in until later in the morning. I will definitely be praying to my HP to be with me. I will be really very surprised if he doesn't come into work as if what I said was nothing.
Saying that I didn't do anything to him that he had not driven me to do, has helped me a lot with my serenity this morning (which was a bit hard to find) so thank you lots and lots.
I'll let you know what happens.
xx
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