"You are not for sale"
 

Anybody see this? Just wanted to share something from a PBS special by Suze Orman “Women and Money.” Something struck me so much in how it relates to codependents that it has become my new Mantra: “You are not for sale!” Suze explores why women have dysfunctional relationships with money and notes the ways they undervalue themselves or "treat themselves as a commodity whose price is set by others." To me, this applies more than just to money issues. I feel like we, especially me, have dysfunctional relationships and undervalue ourselves. Sometimes I feel so vulnerable that I will settle for table scraps almost all the time. When I feel most in the midst of my codependent behaviors, I will soak in every little compliment or attention from any man or AH and make it into the biggest deal ever and continue to keep giving more and more of myself in exchange for the few little scraps thrown to me. I feel so much like I’m for sale, and it’s a bargain basement sale. But I’m trying…I’m not for sale!

I have been reading the book. (Women and Money by Suze Orman) It is rather amazing the parallels between getting your financial house in order and recovering from codependence. And just when I thought I had read enough codepedency books and needed to read something different!

L

OMG, Saint, that is powerful.

I love Suze. I've done well following her advice.

Wow, can I ever wear that one. If some cute guy will pay attention to me, I basically am, well, as you put it, there for whatever scraps I can get. Boy, that sucks to realize.

The good news is that I am learning. Tonight I made a good decision that was in my best interest, even though a really cute guy was trying to get me to meet up with him. The why I shouldn't is a long story, but the fact is, I know better. It took me a little bit to register....I actually got up, put on a cute skirt and makeup, and touched up my hair. Then I looked in the mirror and realized....this is not the right situation for the right reason with the right person. This person's intentions do not look good. When I tried to talk myself out of that, giving him the benefit of the doubt, I remembered if it quacks like a duck........

So what now? I'm sitting around in my PJs with a perfectly made up face and hairsprayed hair. LOL! :D

Thanks for the smile, TG. I've been there, too. You are your own best company, after all! :)

L