They Don't like Alanon
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Mine own ESH mINNIE,
tHE MORE i GOT INTO MY aLANON PROGRAM THE ANGRIER THE EX GOT and would literally scream about Alanon. He knew I was catching on to his quacking and B.S and he was losing his game.
Earthworm
tHE MORE i GOT INTO MY aLANON PROGRAM THE ANGRIER THE EX GOT and would literally scream about Alanon. He knew I was catching on to his quacking and B.S and he was losing his game.
Earthworm
Originally Posted by minnie 
I have a slightly different take on this.
Yes, those in AA who are not truly in recovery see Al-anon as a bitch-fest. I get that. However, I have met plenty of people in AA whose recovery I deeply admire, yet I still detect a very subtle air of "disdain" for those in al-anon, particularly those who are still with their drinking partners. A kind of "You suckers, you have believed all that crap that we spouted, put up with all that nonsense and still stayed around. What's wrong with you?" Kind of a sense of pity, rather than compassion. Perhaps it was the meetings I attended, perhaps it was British men (the AA women wouldn't come near us, for some reason), perhaps it is as Earthworm says, maybe it was my own projections. Actually, I think it is probably exactly as Earthworm says - men don't tend to like it when women figure out their games, drinker or non-drinker.
Never bothered me, mind.
Yes, those in AA who are not truly in recovery see Al-anon as a bitch-fest. I get that. However, I have met plenty of people in AA whose recovery I deeply admire, yet I still detect a very subtle air of "disdain" for those in al-anon, particularly those who are still with their drinking partners. A kind of "You suckers, you have believed all that crap that we spouted, put up with all that nonsense and still stayed around. What's wrong with you?" Kind of a sense of pity, rather than compassion. Perhaps it was the meetings I attended, perhaps it was British men (the AA women wouldn't come near us, for some reason), perhaps it is as Earthworm says, maybe it was my own projections. Actually, I think it is probably exactly as Earthworm says - men don't tend to like it when women figure out their games, drinker or non-drinker.
Never bothered me, mind.
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I have attended Alanon for a long time then became an AA attendee to hear the horrific stories of using and yes, recovery. I know superb people from AA as well as superb A holes from AA. It seems different folks recover differently and some were A holes before drinking and remain so after sobriety.
Some recovering alcoholics see alanon as a threat perhaps if they have not yet fully accepted/surrendered to their disease .
Many folks from AA speak highly of Alanon.
Some recovering alcoholics see alanon as a threat perhaps if they have not yet fully accepted/surrendered to their disease .
Many folks from AA speak highly of Alanon.
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