Just taken by the police
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Spain
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Just taken by the police
Well I finally did it.
After years of suffering for my kids and I, we finally reached the end of our tether and called the police who picked up my wife in her car - 6 TIMES OVER THE LIMIT.
My kids (girl 15 and boy 13.5) were behind me totally as they too couldn't stand any more of the misery her drinking and subsequent and abuse caused us.
We live in Spain and they have now taken her to the local jail and she will be in court in the morning.
We will be filing a statement in the morning giving details of the mayhem she is causing, the abuse (verbal and physical) we have suffered and the fact that we do NOT want her back here.
The local police, who know her well, will support us.
As she does not have residency, she is almost certain to be deported back to the UK where, I hope, she will have hit rock bottom and finally really seek help.
We have pretty much lost everything so I have nothing to give her in any way anymore. She therefore has to get herself sorted and back on her feet or go way down.
Do I feel good about this ?
No I don't. I feel like cr*p but also know it is the only thing I could do to protect my kids and myself from further hell.
Anything else and I would have just continued supporting her habit and helping her to destroy us all.
I know it isn't all over yet but I do also feel a sense of relief too.
For the first night in a long time I can breath and not sit waiting for the next outburst or verbal assault.
I am not sorry for that.
To all others out there in similar positions - Be strong and take the steps you need to to protect not only yourself and your family but also the addict themselves.
All the time you let it happen, allow them the sanctuary they need to continue the habit, they will do so.
It hurts like hell but not as much as continuing to live through it.
God bless.
Pete
After years of suffering for my kids and I, we finally reached the end of our tether and called the police who picked up my wife in her car - 6 TIMES OVER THE LIMIT.
My kids (girl 15 and boy 13.5) were behind me totally as they too couldn't stand any more of the misery her drinking and subsequent and abuse caused us.
We live in Spain and they have now taken her to the local jail and she will be in court in the morning.
We will be filing a statement in the morning giving details of the mayhem she is causing, the abuse (verbal and physical) we have suffered and the fact that we do NOT want her back here.
The local police, who know her well, will support us.
As she does not have residency, she is almost certain to be deported back to the UK where, I hope, she will have hit rock bottom and finally really seek help.
We have pretty much lost everything so I have nothing to give her in any way anymore. She therefore has to get herself sorted and back on her feet or go way down.
Do I feel good about this ?
No I don't. I feel like cr*p but also know it is the only thing I could do to protect my kids and myself from further hell.
Anything else and I would have just continued supporting her habit and helping her to destroy us all.
I know it isn't all over yet but I do also feel a sense of relief too.
For the first night in a long time I can breath and not sit waiting for the next outburst or verbal assault.
I am not sorry for that.
To all others out there in similar positions - Be strong and take the steps you need to to protect not only yourself and your family but also the addict themselves.
All the time you let it happen, allow them the sanctuary they need to continue the habit, they will do so.
It hurts like hell but not as much as continuing to live through it.
God bless.
Pete
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Location: tampa, fl
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Pete,
You have done a good thing for your children, they deserve better.
I know it was a hard decision to make, but, it was the right one for all concerned.
I wish you and your children the very best.
You have done a good thing for your children, they deserve better.
I know it was a hard decision to make, but, it was the right one for all concerned.
I wish you and your children the very best.
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 1,358
Pete, I'm glad for you and your kids.
I know the feeling....I wasn't sorry for that either!
Amen!
Keep coming back if you need support, or even if you don't! It helps to be around those that understand.
Originally Posted by CBPete 
For the first night in a long time I can breath and not sit waiting for the next outburst or verbal assault. I am not sorry for that.
Originally Posted by CBPete
It hurts like hell but not as much as continuing to live through it.
Keep coming back if you need support, or even if you don't! It helps to be around those that understand.
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Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 5,075
Thanks for checking back in CB. Doing the right thing often feels like crap to me at first. It's down the road I see the wisdom of it.
Take care of you and your children. Prayers for all, including your wife.
((()))
Take care of you and your children. Prayers for all, including your wife.
((()))
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Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: OHIO
Posts: 959
You deserve the Father of the Year award.....you stood strong for your children and you set an awesome example.....job well done.
I know this had to have been hard to do but like all the others have said CB - the hardest decisions in life are often the most correct ones. Take Care.
Janit
I know this had to have been hard to do but like all the others have said CB - the hardest decisions in life are often the most correct ones. Take Care.
Janit
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