minnie

Thanks, pet. Service? Perhaps, although that is a very al-anon laden concept for me. That was one of the (many) reasons why I no longer go - I just don't DO committees ;-)

Yup, just more growing pains. Whilst they hurt less than the early ones, they are actually way more difficult to understand these days.

p.s. chuffed means pleased.

denny57

No, I wouldn't say you, or I, or anyone have a duty. As far as my own recovery, it is a bigger picture thing, which is evident to me from the path it's taking. For me, the key has been sharing and then letting go. Planting seeds I call it.

Seekers are such fun to be around! LOL I've written about this before here, but I no longer have a need to have my thoughts or deeds validated by another. I'll seek advice, share what I've decided, but I don't ask the question "do YOU think I did the right thing?" Because no one else knows what is the best thing for me, anymore than I know what is best for someone else. Getting to that place takes a lot of work. Developing that muscle took time and concentration. One day I realized someone else's drinking habits no longer had anything to do with my own recovery.

(((minnie)))

p.s. what IS it with the Brits and their sense of duty? Such a queen thing! LOL!!!!!!! You know I love you.

CE Girl

THANK YOU!! i've lost sleep over this,,,,he,he,he

Just a clarification. I didn't mean service in the al anony kind of way. They refer to service to OTHERS. I'm referring to the service your doing for YOURSELF

Mesmerized this morning by the grand dames of SR. You and Denny are full of insight and what i want to be when I GROW UP!!!

Peace

Jazzman

LOL!!!
Can't tell you how many times I typed out a reply then deleted after I examined MY motives for posting.

Was it about a sense of duty? Service? Helping others? My own edification? My own ego? I have decided to remain silent for the most part, been that way for a while actually. Hard to believe... huh? Me? Keep my mouth shut?!?!? LOL!!!

minnie

Oh Jazz, my sweet. How well you know me! Yes, I admit - I sometimes post to feed my own ego and I think that it is a big factor in my struggles. Quick and easy fix for when I am feeling not so good about myself. The only saving grace is that at least the action has positive effects on others at best, and at worst only wastes bandwidth. Ahtough it also wastes my time, which is something I am only now starting to really value.

denny57

OMG!!! That is so true and I really sucked at reining myself in at the beginning. LOL!!!

LOL!!!! But there's something to said for what Minnie says - what I sometimes may think is in service of my ego actually does help someone else. People come in and out of our lives in many ways, in many places. I'm glad when I first came to SR that Minnie and Jazz were posting their hearts out, it helped me enormously. Today, many of the "old timers" who were here and very helpful to me are gone. Many are still here. Old and new, I gain from all the shares.

minnie

Oh, and Denny, can you see I've changed my siggy under my moniker?!! Yes, we have a tendency towards duty in certain parts of society over here, even if it screws up our lives and those of others. Sighs.....

Jazzman

Sharing the wealth as far as helping others from our own lessons learned....
That makes me feel good TBH. And when I get a response for my effort the validation so shweet

Jazzman

Too funny... I would not have said that but since you did....

minnie

That damn Thanks button's got a lot to answer for......

denny57

Oh crap, there's probably plenty of people who wish I'd get some bigger reins. LOL!!!!!

Jazzman

Hows that saying go? Let he who be free of sin cast the 1st stone?

I would have to drop my rock

minnie

Not me, D. I love hearing what you have to share.

Jazzman

Me too, hope you know I'm kidding

minnie

Btw, I'm not an'ka, in case anyone was wondering.