jeepgirl

I am feeling a little beaten down today. AD is still running around loose. I thought for sure she would slow down when she lost her driving privileges. Not a chance. Next I am shutting down the cell phone. I have kept it as a my last line to her. But, she has abused it, used up all my minutes, lent it out, etc.

I spent the day working on replacing my missing documents. Passport, marriage cert., and birth cert. are missing. Luckily I had made photocopies of all, and will just have to go through the steps. They were possibly lifted by AD and/or her BF. Yuck, yuck, yuck. Dont worry, I have a credit check thingy going for a year. Yes, credit cards and checks were taken too.

As I read this, I cant believe that I let myself get walked over and abused. This is what it has taken for me to change. I dont want to enable anymore!

Sick and tired of being sick and tired. I get it. Now its time for some changes around here. ps going to 2 to 3 meetings a week - like spinach was for Popeye... giving me the strength I need.
jeep

denny57

(((jeepgirl))) As trite as it may sound sometimes, there's a lot to be said for when I reached my limit. It hurts, that's for sure, and I can only imagine what it's like with one's own child.

Thinking of you.

BigSis

(((Jeep))) in my prayers, as is your daughter.

HolyQow

Ive always said that this is tougher when the A is one of the children, instead of a spouse. I am sorry that you are going through this.

Wishing better things to come for you.

mallowcup

It's a whole different scenerio when it's your child, it isn't so easy to draw the lines of what is right or wrong to do. As parents we are conditoned to help them and we are never sure hwo much we had to do with their drinking.
The right thing to do is probably the hardest thing to do. I'd attend as many meeting as you can get to and maybe even get some counceling. I would feel much better running it past a nonbias professional so that my decisions would be validated.
That way you rely on their good judgement , not your own. After a time by having a decison making mentor, you will adapt confidence in your choices.

Pick-a-name

(((Jeep)))

caileesnana

I think when it's your child it is much harder. THey are part of you, we gave them life. I know I thought I was done many times, but she'd call, cry, tears in those big blue eyes, and I saw the little girl that was hurting so bad. I did what I did to help, but I see now it didn't help. My daughter is on a self destruct course and the only thing that can help is her! I'm sorry too that another parent has a daughter like mine. She has broken in, stolen, pawned, lied, lied, lied. I'm better now, but not a day goes by that it doesn't hurt. My thoughts are prayers are w/ you for patience and strength and your daughter to find her way back.
God bless,
susan

parentrecovers

hey jeep, i know exactly how you feel. i understand. extra meetings are a great idea! meanwhile, i'm sending extra prayers to you and your daughter. blessings, k

Rella927

(((Hugs)))) and prayers to you and your daughter!

*Strength too!*

jeepgirl

Thank you all for you thoughts and support. I couldn't understand why I didnt see my post right away, I thought that i posted in the naranon section! I am going to carefully read all that you have written, my HP must have put me here for a reason.
thanks again, kind friends
jeepgirl

Sunflower

you didn't enable her---she abused you by taking things from you--I can understand why you would want her to have a phone so once in a while she can call and you know she is still alive! She has abused that right as well now-so-I guess its off with the phone as well.Sometimes I think the word enabler is used to much........wishing you peace...(((HUGS))))

marle

Jeep, You love your daughter as I do mine. You just take care of yourself and remember that your daughter is locked inside the addiction but she is the one that holds the key. Hugs, Marle