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Hello--I am new here
Hello,
My name is Rosalie...My Grandson is an Alcoholic..and I am looking for support while living through this trying time. My Grandson lives with me and we are very close. My husband died at a young age so I enjoy the company. My grandson is an intelligent young man. The mess he has made of his life is heart breaking for me.
He is an Alcoholic. I do not think he understands the depth of his drinking problem. I want to Help him in any way I can. He does not see it as a problem.
Looking forward to making some new friends here who understand.
Forgive me if I mess up the postings-I am still trying to figure out how it all works.
Thank-you..
My name is Rosalie...My Grandson is an Alcoholic..and I am looking for support while living through this trying time. My Grandson lives with me and we are very close. My husband died at a young age so I enjoy the company. My grandson is an intelligent young man. The mess he has made of his life is heart breaking for me.
He is an Alcoholic. I do not think he understands the depth of his drinking problem. I want to Help him in any way I can. He does not see it as a problem.
Looking forward to making some new friends here who understand.
Forgive me if I mess up the postings-I am still trying to figure out how it all works.
Thank-you..
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: pass the bon bons
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welcome to sr, rosalie, what a pretty name.....
i'll say a prayer for you and your grandson.....and don't worry, you'll find so many kind people here who understand exactly what you are going through......
i'm glad you found us.....
hugs...
ayla
i'll say a prayer for you and your grandson.....and don't worry, you'll find so many kind people here who understand exactly what you are going through......
i'm glad you found us.....
hugs...
ayla
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Welcome to SR Rosalie! Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time ((hugs)) Others with alot of advice and similar situations will be here to listen your not alone..so keep posting!
He probably does not understand the depth of his drinking problem
Read some stickies they may help you to understand things a bit better too!
Hugs and Prayers
He probably does not understand the depth of his drinking problem
Read some stickies they may help you to understand things a bit better too!
Hugs and Prayers
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: FL
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Hi rosalie!
I'm sorry your grandson has a problem. You are in good company here as so many of us have loved ones in the same situation.
Please read the stickys at the top of the page because they contain information that is vital for you to learn about this disease.
If you have any problems with posting or anything at all here, just ask for help.
Make yourself at home, read some posts and please feel free to join in, post and share your story with us. You aren't alone.
I'm sorry your grandson has a problem. You are in good company here as so many of us have loved ones in the same situation.
Please read the stickys at the top of the page because they contain information that is vital for you to learn about this disease.
If you have any problems with posting or anything at all here, just ask for help.
Make yourself at home, read some posts and please feel free to join in, post and share your story with us. You aren't alone.
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Join Date: Apr 2005
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Welcome Rosalie
You have come to a good place...keep reading, there is so much valuable information and knowledge here that will help you better understand alcohol addiction and how to deal with it.
You have come to a good place...keep reading, there is so much valuable information and knowledge here that will help you better understand alcohol addiction and how to deal with it.
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Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: OHIO
Posts: 959
Welcome Rosaie......they never do think they have a problem...haven't you heard WE are the ones with the problem....ya know what? They are right on the money. We do have a problem but we are better at recovery.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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Hi Rosalie,
You obviously love your grandson alot. It is a hard road if you let it be. My son was/is a drug/alcoholic. (not so much these days thank goodness, maybe on weekends now)
If he is living with you Rosalie, you must not encourage him by letting him do it in your home. I dont know how bad his situation is yet so its hard to tell you. All I know its best to deal with it before it gets way out of control. As hard and as hurt as you will be, you have to ask him to leave if he is going to continue this. It sounds unfortunately that he may have used you along the way and hasnt had to be very responsible. He now has to grow up.
Keep coming on here as there are many good people who can give better advice.
Justjo
You obviously love your grandson alot. It is a hard road if you let it be. My son was/is a drug/alcoholic. (not so much these days thank goodness, maybe on weekends now)
If he is living with you Rosalie, you must not encourage him by letting him do it in your home. I dont know how bad his situation is yet so its hard to tell you. All I know its best to deal with it before it gets way out of control. As hard and as hurt as you will be, you have to ask him to leave if he is going to continue this. It sounds unfortunately that he may have used you along the way and hasnt had to be very responsible. He now has to grow up.
Keep coming on here as there are many good people who can give better advice.
Justjo
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I too would like to welcome you to SR Rosalie (I agree, that is a very pretty name)! You're doing fine with posting, so not to worry.
As others have already said, pull up a chair and do some reading in the threads here and in the stickies posted at the top. There's lots of important information and suggested things to focus on for 'yourself' to assist you. I would also like to suggest attending some Alanon meetings. Many people have found the meetings to be extremely beneficial.
If you have any questions, or care to share more, just fire away when you're ready!
As others have already said, pull up a chair and do some reading in the threads here and in the stickies posted at the top. There's lots of important information and suggested things to focus on for 'yourself' to assist you. I would also like to suggest attending some Alanon meetings. Many people have found the meetings to be extremely beneficial.
If you have any questions, or care to share more, just fire away when you're ready!
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He will be done with College next Spring and will have many opportunities open to him in the job market.
His living with me in my home has not been difficult. He helps me in so many areas-Lawnwork,Errands,Shopping,Upkeep of the Home and Fix it jobs. Being a Widow I am glad to have him here to do what I cannot. I do not feel used in anyway.
When next year ends I fully expect him to go out on his own. He is very mature.My fear is the drinking will ruin him before he gets a change to live out his dream he has worked so hard for.
I have spoken with him and he has promised he will no longer drink in the home.I do not know if that will accomplish much.
I am pleased that he has accepted my offer to have a Medical Doctor give him an entire Physical Exam. He doesn't want to continue in AA. That is his choice. I am leaning towards approaching him re a plan for at the least to give a Psychologists a try,He needs to be able to speak with a professional he may feel more comfortable and have the ability to share his concerns.
Thank you all so much for your concern and friendly welcome to this forum.
His living with me in my home has not been difficult. He helps me in so many areas-Lawnwork,Errands,Shopping,Upkeep of the Home and Fix it jobs. Being a Widow I am glad to have him here to do what I cannot. I do not feel used in anyway.
When next year ends I fully expect him to go out on his own. He is very mature.My fear is the drinking will ruin him before he gets a change to live out his dream he has worked so hard for.
I have spoken with him and he has promised he will no longer drink in the home.I do not know if that will accomplish much.
I am pleased that he has accepted my offer to have a Medical Doctor give him an entire Physical Exam. He doesn't want to continue in AA. That is his choice. I am leaning towards approaching him re a plan for at the least to give a Psychologists a try,He needs to be able to speak with a professional he may feel more comfortable and have the ability to share his concerns.
Thank you all so much for your concern and friendly welcome to this forum.
Becoming a Butterfly
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: New York, NY
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Hi Rosalie - welcome aboard. You are so full of love ... I like that. We can't love our beloved A's problem away. We can only make conditions optimal for their recovery. Letting your concerns be heard, refusing to allow him to drink in your home, these are good steps for you both. I think you have a good base from which to go forward.
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