Zoey

I agree, go to a motel, even for a long hot bath, tell him you will be out late.
Check tel yellow pages for attorneys, they offer free advise.
t hen check for crisis lines in the area, just by finding out things you can do gives power.

WhatAboutME

(((chero)))

Please calm down. You don't have to make this decision tonight. Take a bath. Heck, go to the drugstore and get some Tylenol PM. Anything to calm down. You've made it this far, you'll make it through the night. You are stronger than you think. I consider myself a certifable nutcase and you ALWAYS provide courage, balance and wisdom when you respond to my rambling posts.

I do know how you feel. During the past few months, I have experienced panic attacks to the point that my FP prescribed Xanax. I often found myself waking up in a cold sweat with my heart racing a thousand miles an hour. No good.

We are here. Vent away.

Sunflower

Yes I too take xanax for anxiety attacks---but tylenol pm would help.
You have to be careful you dont make any big choices if you are not thinking clearly((((((HUGS)))))))

chero

Why am I here? I hate everything about being here.

I have to start making plans to get out of here. I don't even know how to do that. I'm scared he'll be in my life forever.

I wish I had never had a good day...esp. several in a row.

I want to hurt so much.....why do I need pain? ?? why?? what is wrong with me??

mallowcup

Can you stay put and call the police? Can you have him removed? I think you could get an order of protection.
A plan is a good idea. why not start a notebook. You may feel differently if you are there but have a plan. I really think if you can stay and have him removed, you should.

chero

He just passed out. I'm so scared to even get out of this chair.

I don't want him to come back to life.

I don't even know the first place to start but I have to have a plan. I have to get out of here. It's not worth it.

I'm so scared to even take a deep breath. I"m so scared.

ICU

Please Chero, just breathe in through your nose very slowly (count to ten), slowly exhale through your mouth (count to ten). Clear your mind of everything and just focus on nothing but your slow rhythmic breathing...in through your nose, out through your mouth. Repeat until you feel some sense of calmness coming over you.

I know the way you feel right now is horrible, but believe me, it's temporary. You're not going to feel this bad forever. That I promise you. It's always darkest before the dawn, and your dawn is just around the corner. You have to believe....just believe!

Sunflower

HELLO MODERATOR----do you think this might be a serious situation going on here? sure sounds like it to me---can you call her?

LGLG07

Chero honey please stay with us .. Take this advice and just breathe .. you have to calm yourself , breathe into a paper bag if you have one . call 911 for your A if he has passed out , you may need medical attention yourself ..

you really do sound like you are having a panic attack , the only way to get through that is to breath

kglast

(((((((CHERO)))))))))))

Please hang in there - you will be OK! We all will, eventually!!! Please let us know you are ok...

chero

i've got to go...he is screaming...i'll be back in a bit...i've got to go....

mallowcup

It's time to call 911. Have an ambulance come. Just tell them he is passed out.
Everything is OK and this is the right thing to do for him and you. Chero, please keep talking to us. Call 911 and step back.

LGLG07

leave chero .. walk out the door .. leave

Sunflower

ok this is too scary--I have written 2 of the moderators to see if they can handle thisSHE needs the ambulance not him!!

Janitw

Hunny - its all you've known for a long time and the thought of not having it scares you.....I know it's sick but thats the way it is.....it will take time after he's gone for you to realize just how bad the situation really was...it's amazing the things we "see" after the fog has lifted...even if we do somehow feel a need to go back....of course we don't but some of us still want to....time will heal you hun..it's simply amazing.

LiLL

chero, can you leave the place temporarily? An A can be very dangerous if he's very durnk or in a blackout. Get out as fast as you can if it's safe for you to do so? Don't scream or fight back.
I'm so sorry you're going through this!

MsGolightly

chero, i'm sorry i'm reading this so late... i hope that you're okay... i hope that you managed to leave the house, at least for a little while.

some anxiety meds might be useful - even after/if you leave. try breathing exercises, counting in and out and taking deep breaths until you feel calm ... picture yourself on a beach somewhere...

WantsOut

call 911. This is beyond what you or people on a message board can cope with.

dollydo

Can you go to a friends house or to your family? He'll probably calm down and maybe go back to sleep...that is your chance to leave, throw a few things in a bag and bolt.

Don't add fuel to the fire, don't argue with him. Be passive and when you get your chance move and move quickly. Get the h*ll out of there, tonight.

If he doesn't calm down call 911, protect yourself, do whatever is necessary to be safe, and I mean whatever.

kermit

Chero...................Can you go out to a friends or family? Church? Get out and if he is making it hard call 911. Please do not stay.