What are you grateful for today?
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What are you grateful for today?
What are you grateful for today?
I will start today by saying that I’m grateful that I’m alive and grateful for such a wonderful sister-
(Hope that everyone will join me in what they are grateful for today)
Last night…..I went about living my life (as us codies try to continue to do while recovering) I planned my evening after work-to go shopping and buy myself some new spring clothes! I had been getting several restricted phone calls and txt messages from the X A- ( Did not allow it take a hold of me which normally I can do because I chose to keep my cell number so those are the consequences-) so he was off in his tirade again…hmmmm drunk? Yup uh huh-
Well I came out of Home Goods to go to my car-and one row behind me parked was him! I did not notice until I was about 10 feet from my SUV and about 150 feet from the store. I jumped in the vehicle and called the police-he left the parking lot-and 4 cop cars pulled him over-
A cop came to me in the parking lot-and when speaking to the other officer that was with the X he said escort her over here to where we are. My X A was claiming that I called him all day today! In other words he began to start quacking to the officer because he knew he had to try to figure a way out of the mess once again he got himself into! Ahhh and what better than to do what he and other A’s do best blame ME! It was a nice try but the Sergeant did not buy it! So we reach where they are and by the time we got over there- (5 cops now) I’m driving shaking like a leaf! And obviously they all caught onto the fact that he had been drinking-they received the information regarding the permanent restraining order and arrested him. He could barely walk-as I watched them put him the police car and of course quacking at the officer-
The 5 officers came to my car and the Sergeant asks that I come to the police station to do a report AGAIN! Unreal how even after they are out of our lives we still have to take out time of ours that we are working so hard to get back!
I did the report-and the one officer that was with me from the time I called said to me you know I went to school with this guy-and he was drinking back then. He said to me he really needs help! I said hmmm ya think? The Sergeant started saying to me well you know it is a disease and trying to explain it to me- I said well you need not go there because I know of the disease-I have a brother and a deceased father because of the disease and this is the second A boyfriend! (X) so I have begun work on myself with the use of counseling and Al-Anon and I’m taking the baby steps towards recovering my life and learning how to use my recovery tools to gain my life back 100% as whole-viewing my behavior and learning that this is not my fault what happened tonight! I thought the guy was going to fall of his chair he said WOW I guess you’re on your way!
Well as we were talking it was so sickening to my stomach that I got that pit in my stomach that we all know of and have had when the A Is near and DRUNK! I could smell him from the next room and knew he was in there. The Sergeant said to me yes he is and we need to let you go because this guy is very arrogant-and I said oh and belligerent, controlling, manipulative-he said yes what he tried to do to me before! We laughed and I thanked them and left.
I went home 11:30 pm. And got ready for bed-of course my old behavior kicking in and the obsessive trait-I can’t sleep what am I going to do if they let him out tonight-blah blah codie quack! Well I grabbed my good ole Melody Beatie-and read a bit-The Sergeant called me around 1:00 am and said you can go to sleep now-the bail was set at $10,000.00 cash and he is being taken to county jail- he will not be getting out tonight! It will be a day or two for the bail hearing-and they will let you know when he is released! PHEW or so I thought-I still tossed and turned!
But I woke up this morning and thanked my HP that I was able to walk away in one piece-and wake up with a smile on face with the sun shining on it and said I’m going to have a good day today because I can! I’m grateful to all of you…..my HP and my sister today! Now I will Let Go and Let God….
What are you grateful for?
I will start today by saying that I’m grateful that I’m alive and grateful for such a wonderful sister-
(Hope that everyone will join me in what they are grateful for today)
Last night…..I went about living my life (as us codies try to continue to do while recovering) I planned my evening after work-to go shopping and buy myself some new spring clothes! I had been getting several restricted phone calls and txt messages from the X A- ( Did not allow it take a hold of me which normally I can do because I chose to keep my cell number so those are the consequences-) so he was off in his tirade again…hmmmm drunk? Yup uh huh-
Well I came out of Home Goods to go to my car-and one row behind me parked was him! I did not notice until I was about 10 feet from my SUV and about 150 feet from the store. I jumped in the vehicle and called the police-he left the parking lot-and 4 cop cars pulled him over-
A cop came to me in the parking lot-and when speaking to the other officer that was with the X he said escort her over here to where we are. My X A was claiming that I called him all day today! In other words he began to start quacking to the officer because he knew he had to try to figure a way out of the mess once again he got himself into! Ahhh and what better than to do what he and other A’s do best blame ME! It was a nice try but the Sergeant did not buy it! So we reach where they are and by the time we got over there- (5 cops now) I’m driving shaking like a leaf! And obviously they all caught onto the fact that he had been drinking-they received the information regarding the permanent restraining order and arrested him. He could barely walk-as I watched them put him the police car and of course quacking at the officer-
The 5 officers came to my car and the Sergeant asks that I come to the police station to do a report AGAIN! Unreal how even after they are out of our lives we still have to take out time of ours that we are working so hard to get back!
I did the report-and the one officer that was with me from the time I called said to me you know I went to school with this guy-and he was drinking back then. He said to me he really needs help! I said hmmm ya think? The Sergeant started saying to me well you know it is a disease and trying to explain it to me- I said well you need not go there because I know of the disease-I have a brother and a deceased father because of the disease and this is the second A boyfriend! (X) so I have begun work on myself with the use of counseling and Al-Anon and I’m taking the baby steps towards recovering my life and learning how to use my recovery tools to gain my life back 100% as whole-viewing my behavior and learning that this is not my fault what happened tonight! I thought the guy was going to fall of his chair he said WOW I guess you’re on your way!
Well as we were talking it was so sickening to my stomach that I got that pit in my stomach that we all know of and have had when the A Is near and DRUNK! I could smell him from the next room and knew he was in there. The Sergeant said to me yes he is and we need to let you go because this guy is very arrogant-and I said oh and belligerent, controlling, manipulative-he said yes what he tried to do to me before! We laughed and I thanked them and left.
I went home 11:30 pm. And got ready for bed-of course my old behavior kicking in and the obsessive trait-I can’t sleep what am I going to do if they let him out tonight-blah blah codie quack! Well I grabbed my good ole Melody Beatie-and read a bit-The Sergeant called me around 1:00 am and said you can go to sleep now-the bail was set at $10,000.00 cash and he is being taken to county jail- he will not be getting out tonight! It will be a day or two for the bail hearing-and they will let you know when he is released! PHEW or so I thought-I still tossed and turned!
But I woke up this morning and thanked my HP that I was able to walk away in one piece-and wake up with a smile on face with the sun shining on it and said I’m going to have a good day today because I can! I’m grateful to all of you…..my HP and my sister today! Now I will Let Go and Let God….
What are you grateful for?
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: San Rafael, California
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You know, after reading your post, (and not trying to rub anything in), I'm grateful for having a RAGF who truly does care about working her program and maintaining her sobriety. Her inability to do so last year is what kept us apart, and I look back on it all as, in a way, time lost to the disease.
But I'm also grateful that she and I found our way back to each other, and for the love that we have - even when times get VERY tough...
I'm proud of you for staying as calm and collected as could possibly be expected through all of that, Rella. My ex-wife is much the same, although she doesn't drink (however I do believe she has SOME sort of substance abuse issue - I'm just not sure what it is), as she's showed up places that I've been before and tried to pull that stuff - and one time, since I'm the one who has a "twig and berries," I DID go to jail for something that I didn't do...
Not only was it something I didn't do...it was something she did to herself.
Luckily, I was able to bail in a few hours, and no charges were even ever filed (which I still am seeking some sort of legal reasoning for how they could hold me on bail with no charges), and it didn't even go on my record as an arrest.
I'm in constant amazement of everyone on this board, and the strength they exhibit every day...so I would say the other thing I'm grateful for is finding this resource as a place to be able to relate to others dealing with similar situations as mine.
But I'm also grateful that she and I found our way back to each other, and for the love that we have - even when times get VERY tough...
I'm proud of you for staying as calm and collected as could possibly be expected through all of that, Rella. My ex-wife is much the same, although she doesn't drink (however I do believe she has SOME sort of substance abuse issue - I'm just not sure what it is), as she's showed up places that I've been before and tried to pull that stuff - and one time, since I'm the one who has a "twig and berries," I DID go to jail for something that I didn't do...
Not only was it something I didn't do...it was something she did to herself.
Luckily, I was able to bail in a few hours, and no charges were even ever filed (which I still am seeking some sort of legal reasoning for how they could hold me on bail with no charges), and it didn't even go on my record as an arrest.
I'm in constant amazement of everyone on this board, and the strength they exhibit every day...so I would say the other thing I'm grateful for is finding this resource as a place to be able to relate to others dealing with similar situations as mine.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 792
wow, rella, the drama!
i'm glad you were able to get *some* sleep and take your mind off of it. you seem to be incredibly strong with a good head on your shoulders... i'm glad to see you not get sucked in again!
in terms of what i'm thankful for... my dad had a really complicated surgery yesterday on his neck and spine, and although there were some small issues (allergic reaction to the medicine, panic attack - LOL i guess not so "small"... i was worried all day!), he's okay now and he'll be released in a few days! my mom also resigned from her job several months ago and was very worried no one would hire her at her age - but she received an offer last night! so i'm very thankful things are starting to work out!
keep it up, girl, you're doing great!
i'm glad you were able to get *some* sleep and take your mind off of it. you seem to be incredibly strong with a good head on your shoulders... i'm glad to see you not get sucked in again!
in terms of what i'm thankful for... my dad had a really complicated surgery yesterday on his neck and spine, and although there were some small issues (allergic reaction to the medicine, panic attack - LOL i guess not so "small"... i was worried all day!), he's okay now and he'll be released in a few days! my mom also resigned from her job several months ago and was very worried no one would hire her at her age - but she received an offer last night! so i'm very thankful things are starting to work out!
keep it up, girl, you're doing great!
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((Rella))
Grateful that the law enforcement were there for you & that they helped you when you needed it.
Also very grateful that when the "crazies" start going off in my head that I have tons of recovery tools - like SR, the telephone, good literature, meetings, journals & service work to get me focused on the Next Right Thing.
Peace,
Rita
Grateful that the law enforcement were there for you & that they helped you when you needed it.
Also very grateful that when the "crazies" start going off in my head that I have tons of recovery tools - like SR, the telephone, good literature, meetings, journals & service work to get me focused on the Next Right Thing.
Peace,
Rita
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