MsGolightly

ah, sunflower, isn't that sad?

he does look very attractive though - must take after his mom!

MsGolightly

chero - you should say, "if something happened to ME tomorrow, you'll be sorry you spent our marriage drinking away!"

aztchr

I hope you heard, "Quack, quack, quack."

chero

Good one, guys! I didn't say it but I did think it!!

LiLL

i would just pretend i don't understand him... "oh oh, what did you say? ... sorry i'm busy... just wait..." then type away....

Sunflower

chero you crack me up-----thanks for the smile
No he doesnt take after me he looks like his grandmothers maternal side--very German...me I am short-chubby blonde hair and blue eyed(irish) with curly curly hair

HolyQow

So which way to the computer addict forum?

Im guilty too. I am just not that fond of TV. My first husband used to complain, but my reply was that I wouldn't be on the computer if there wasn't a problem already. Current AH has his own computer (so I don't have to share) and I have done a pretty good job keeping the network running well....it's daughter's computer that is full of junk and threatening my lifeline to the outside world.

What other things do you do on here besides SR? I am addicted to Stumble on Firefox. Press the stumble button and it takes you to random sites. There are so many different things I've seen and read that I knew nothing about before. I also play poker (yeah for the gambling forum, I suppose I'll end up there next). Then I am addicted to jigsaw puzzles at lunchtimers.com (many ppl working on same puzzle).....I literally can waste 3 hours without knowing it some nights doing jigsaw puzzles. Isketch is my other addiction.....I can quit anytime I want ...really... LOL

In my defense ....I don't usually turn my computer on till the kids go to bed....this way I don't get interupted. It's also my retreat when I hear the first beer can crack open.

ICU

Oh my... what a weird coincidence!!! I thought my ex was the only one like that. The only difference is his 'throne' was the large couch and my 'throne' was the....smaller love seat (if one could call it that)! He would stretch out on the large couch and there was no room for me there...what a blessing in disguise that was!!! Farther away from the alcohol stench!

He was amazed that no woman he's ever known could actually sit and watch an entire movie/tv show without getting distracted or get up and do something while watching.

Seems to me he liked to control the most ridiculous things!

Grace

They are being controlling. My ex forbid me to receive phone calls in the evening, and then he forbid me to tell anyone why. He also accused me of being on the computer ALL DAY long. Aliens must have snuck in while I was online and kept the housework and yardwork done.

Also, who pays for the internet? How does this affect them? As I have been reminded on here....You don't have to explain your actions to anyone else. I'm going through this with my entire family and it is very frustrating. I have learned to say, "WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW?" when they ask me something that is absolutely none of their business. It works and it shuts them up. A wise counselor once told me that I only have to account for my actions to the good Lord and the one who signs my paycheck!

Grace

Oh....I just remembered something else. One night I was reading a book while he was watching WWE and he kicked the book out of my hands and said "Pay attention to what I'm watching." Thanks for reminding me of what a treasure I just walked away from.

chero

Oh, Grace, my AH is that way during commercials. He wants me to pay attention to them so I can explain them to him. He never gets funny commercials.

StandingStrong

I admit that I get some static from my kids sometimes.
Which always cracks me up really because: One of them hides in her room all the time anyways so why does she care if I'm on the computer or not? Another one would just play PS2 and talk to his gf on the phone all day if I let him and the other one complains because he has a game he likes to play online so I think he sees it as I'm taking his computer time!!! lol

I will admit that many years ago, I was online too much. It became my escape from my own miserable life. I do keep an eye on myself to make sure that I don't get caught up in that daily trap anymore.

Why do people complain though? I agree with an earlier poster - the complainer is just upset and bothered that they don't have your full attention or feel you are taking time away from them and their needs, wants, and desires. They've grown accustomed to having us their for their every whim. The computer is a threat to their safety net.

chero

Hey, Stand. I don't understand what you mean?? What is the trap?? I've wondered about being on here too much but I feel so much better on here. This is the first and last place I come in a day.

StandingStrong

chero, what I mean is that I was using the computer/internet as my escape from life. This was before I found SR.
In losing myself in the internet, I didn't have to deal with life, in general. The computer was my escape. I could spend hours on the computer.

You see, I was unhappy and miserable. My life was not happy. Instead of dealing with life, I escaped it by using the internet. It became a habit.

That is not to say that the computer/internet is unhealthy or time spend unwisely. I have gotten wonderful things from the computer/internet. But I also know that life is about action, and sitting on the computer for hours instead of being proactive and actually doing something is not productive when done for such great lengths of time.

DId that make sense? I guess what I'm saying is that I limit my time on the computer and I don't spend countless hours a day on a daily basis being on the computer to escape my life. I alm living my life now.

JenT1968

I get this often, H says that forums are my porn, and tbh in some ways he is right, I have used internet forums (two years ago it was a wedding forum, then it was a financial help forum) to distract me from the fact that I was so overwhelmingly bored with trying to interact with someone who acted like they have degenerative memory loss and numerous mental health diagnoses for the vast majority of the time we are together (there's only so many times I can pretend convincingly that this is the first time this evening that we have had a particular conversation, or be enthralled by a joke that he has only said half of, or participate in a debate where most of what he thinks I have said is going on in his head, or enjoy chatting to someone who has just come round from being passed out on the toilet).

I recognise that being on the internet reading this forum, is a fulfilling a need that, if I was living the life I truly want, perhaps I would gain from face to face interaction. But this helps me right now.

He also however is fond of coming in and shouting "are you going to do anything fun tonight?" when I have been sat on a work-night with my cat reading a novel that I have borrowed from a friend and am really enjoying (i.e. fun for me) because I have said "no I am fine thanks" to repeated offers of chocolate, alcohol and sex.

so to be honest I don't set much store by anyone elses opinion of how I should enjoy my free time.

lilac

Don't worry about them, they don't understand what a life saver this site is....

Now, however, I do have to watch myself because I can get lost on the computer for hours and not even realize it !