XAH - Can he do this???
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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I'd tell him to make sure he gives the FBI the correct spelling of your name lol I'm sure they aren't too busy with terrorism and whatnot to follow up on a mother taking her daughter on a fun, exciting extracarricular activity that involves a beautiful dress and the chance to learn to win or lose gracefully.
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Join Date: May 2004
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Don't let him get to you - he's simply trying to exert his control.
Read your papers. I'm wondering if it's stated that you have something along the lines of shared parenting? But if he's had no contact, then he has no business jumping in suddenly as it will just cause your daughter hurt and disappointment to not attend.
Take your daughter.
As was said earlier, if he shows up and starts anything - have security remove him. It will just show the judge later what an unfit parent he is to embarrass her that way.
Don't let him stress you - that is his goal you know.
Read your papers. I'm wondering if it's stated that you have something along the lines of shared parenting? But if he's had no contact, then he has no business jumping in suddenly as it will just cause your daughter hurt and disappointment to not attend.
Take your daughter.
As was said earlier, if he shows up and starts anything - have security remove him. It will just show the judge later what an unfit parent he is to embarrass her that way.
Don't let him stress you - that is his goal you know.
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Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: WA Rainforest
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As I understand it, you would need his permission to take her out of the country. I presume the pageant is not in Canada or Mexico or in Europe or Japan or anything like that.
Beyond foreign travel, nope. Unless you have shared parenting, in which case you can't move out of the area with her without his permission. But for leisure activities? butt out buster. He can't control your every move and that's all he's trying to do, blow smoke and get you all confused so you can't take care of yourself without him.
don't waste your time or money calling the attorney on this one, it's a no brainer, and he has to have no brain to try pulling something like this.
Beyond foreign travel, nope. Unless you have shared parenting, in which case you can't move out of the area with her without his permission. But for leisure activities? butt out buster. He can't control your every move and that's all he's trying to do, blow smoke and get you all confused so you can't take care of yourself without him.
don't waste your time or money calling the attorney on this one, it's a no brainer, and he has to have no brain to try pulling something like this.
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Join Date: May 2004
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Re reading your papers is a good idea. Many times it states things like joint legal with one parent having sole custody... translate if she is visiting with him and needs to go to the ER, he can sign for treatment.
Usually there is some statement about arranging for weekends, etc. Joint parenting does not mean he has the right to disrupt their lives. The purpose of joint parenting is to look out for the best interests of the child.
Usually you do need to notifiy, do court etc if you're moving out of state as other have said or if you're traveling internationally.
Ex's always know which buttons to push... and usually one of them is to strike at us using our children as they know this will get to us quicker than anything else.
Remember... no bucks, no buck rogers! It's not his dime or time!
We'll all be cheering for her!!!
Have a good time! No, have a GREAT time!
Usually there is some statement about arranging for weekends, etc. Joint parenting does not mean he has the right to disrupt their lives. The purpose of joint parenting is to look out for the best interests of the child.
Usually you do need to notifiy, do court etc if you're moving out of state as other have said or if you're traveling internationally.
Ex's always know which buttons to push... and usually one of them is to strike at us using our children as they know this will get to us quicker than anything else.
Remember... no bucks, no buck rogers! It's not his dime or time!
We'll all be cheering for her!!!
Have a good time! No, have a GREAT time!
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Join Date: Nov 2006
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It seems to me that he is just desperately trying to rattle your cage and exert some sort of control over you.
My ex tries the same junk; this week he told my adult son that he was going to go to our minor child's school to find out 'why D is missing so much'. The kid was on spring break a couple of weeks ago and EXAH didn't have a clue!! LOL!!
He never gave a ***n about school or homework or anything else that matters before; I know he is trying to get a rise out of me. Not going there!!
Ignore him and carry on with your plans. He's just quacking.
My ex tries the same junk; this week he told my adult son that he was going to go to our minor child's school to find out 'why D is missing so much'. The kid was on spring break a couple of weeks ago and EXAH didn't have a clue!! LOL!!
He never gave a ***n about school or homework or anything else that matters before; I know he is trying to get a rise out of me. Not going there!!
Ignore him and carry on with your plans. He's just quacking.
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Richton, MS
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Thanks ya'll -
I do so much better with no contact. I literally get sick when I have to talk to him at all. He know exactly what buttons to push with me.
He tells me that he has not had a drink in several months. I seriously doubt that, what are the chances that he is telling the truth????? For me personally it does not matter, but I worry about him drinking if he ever decides that he wants to see the kids.
As for the pageant she is going to be beautiful. I wish I could post a picture, but I know that is a bad idea (very bad idea).
As for the child support - He is not getting disability, he just says his back is hurting and will not go back to work until he feels better. I think he is just trying to avoid child support to his ex and now me. His brain is just soggy from all the beer he has drank. He does not understand they will put him in jail for non payment.
As for visitation - he can get the kids every other weekend and summer. He has not had any visitation with them, his choice not mine.
The pageant is a school function. We don't live in the same county, when we divorced I moved back home, one county over (30 mins from him).
I do so much better with no contact. I literally get sick when I have to talk to him at all. He know exactly what buttons to push with me.
He tells me that he has not had a drink in several months. I seriously doubt that, what are the chances that he is telling the truth????? For me personally it does not matter, but I worry about him drinking if he ever decides that he wants to see the kids.
As for the pageant she is going to be beautiful. I wish I could post a picture, but I know that is a bad idea (very bad idea).
As for the child support - He is not getting disability, he just says his back is hurting and will not go back to work until he feels better. I think he is just trying to avoid child support to his ex and now me. His brain is just soggy from all the beer he has drank. He does not understand they will put him in jail for non payment.
As for visitation - he can get the kids every other weekend and summer. He has not had any visitation with them, his choice not mine.
The pageant is a school function. We don't live in the same county, when we divorced I moved back home, one county over (30 mins from him).
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