Soulsong #368 – Sailing a Relation-Ship
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Soulsong #368 – Sailing a Relation-Ship
Soulsong #368 – Sailing a Relation-Ship
If I’m in an unhappy relationship, the most important thing I can do is work on my own happiness, here and now, before I change any aspect of my situation.
If I allow my sense of well-being to depend on the status of my relationship, I’m in a vulnerable position. I’m placing my inner peace and joy at the mercy of circumstances outside myself, over which I will never have total control.
But I always have control of my mental focus, and I will do myself a huge favor by focusing on what I like about my partner. What do I appreciate about this relationship, past and present? What’s good about my life right now?
I discipline myself to notice what’s going right, not wrong. I practice observing my partner’s strengths. And if that seems impossible, I change the subject in my own mind. (Ah…nice weather we’re having.)
As I choose contented, peaceful thoughts DESPITE WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH THE RELATIONSHIP, then the relationship MUST improve or it must dissolve, allowing me to find fulfillment elsewhere.
A joyful me WILL be a match-up to a joyful relationship, either this one or another one. But without the inner work, I’ll likely stay stuck on a sandbar.
Copyright 2006, Karen Williams
If I’m in an unhappy relationship, the most important thing I can do is work on my own happiness, here and now, before I change any aspect of my situation.
If I allow my sense of well-being to depend on the status of my relationship, I’m in a vulnerable position. I’m placing my inner peace and joy at the mercy of circumstances outside myself, over which I will never have total control.
But I always have control of my mental focus, and I will do myself a huge favor by focusing on what I like about my partner. What do I appreciate about this relationship, past and present? What’s good about my life right now?
I discipline myself to notice what’s going right, not wrong. I practice observing my partner’s strengths. And if that seems impossible, I change the subject in my own mind. (Ah…nice weather we’re having.)
As I choose contented, peaceful thoughts DESPITE WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH THE RELATIONSHIP, then the relationship MUST improve or it must dissolve, allowing me to find fulfillment elsewhere.
A joyful me WILL be a match-up to a joyful relationship, either this one or another one. But without the inner work, I’ll likely stay stuck on a sandbar.
Copyright 2006, Karen Williams
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Originally Posted by Rella927 
If I allow my sense of well-being to depend on the status of my relationship, I’m in a vulnerable position. I’m placing my inner peace and joy at the mercy of circumstances outside myself, over which I will never have total control.
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