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Any ideas?
Ok - so I don't feel good anyway - been fighting a cold all weekend. So that may be altering my mood/judgement right now. you know living in a fog.
AH has called a couple times on Friday, at least once on Saturday and then called again today at 1:30 pm while I was at my parents.
He started talking about "I think we can make this work" then when I didn't agree, 'when can we sit down and talk about this' (splitting the property etc.).
He thought I didn't want the lot we (I) had purchased about 2 years ago that is adjacent to our house.
I'm assuming he wanted that lot if I wanted the house.
There's no way in the world that I would let him have that lot if I had to live right by it in the house.
I'd sooner let him have the whole works than to have to live next to him potentially - or to have him watch my comings and goings.
Although I agree that maybe we need to discuss this - I was just laying down to rest (due to my incredible headache with this cold) and I was not in any mood to discuss it then.
He also wanted to know when he could get his stuff. His class ring, broken wedding ring, and his grandmothers silverware (that his grandmother gave him!) Ok he also has a lot of stuff out in the garage. And I hope he takes all his porn with him too!!!
So he called again tonight and talked with 2 of the 3 kids. Told the 11 year old that she can come to his apartment any time she likes - that it's hers too. (Not - there is court ordered supervised visitation!!)
He called again later, wanted to know what I was doing tomorrow, as he was going to come over and get some of his things - and he was planning on doing it while I wasn't there. I told him I would rather he waits until I'm home. "What's the difference" he said.
I first asked him why did it bother him so much to have to wait until I was home.
He said , "let me think and I'll get back to you on that." (What does that mean???)
I told him that if he didn't wait then I would have to report that to someone too (I have temporary custody of the marital home- he needs my permission)
"I know what's mine and what isn't" he said, then started being snide - "well, you can call me and let me know when it fits into your busy schedule!"
"No, I'll be home at 5 you can come over then" I said.
My dilemna - I'm sure he's going to drive over here. Only about 9-10 blocks. He doesn't have a license.
The 2 older kids saw him driving on Saturday while they were going to the Easter Egg Hunt. He had told me last week too that if he drives 53 mph - he'll be just fine. He claims he already did his time - but according to the courts - his time didn't start until March '07. (6 months without a driver's license)
Do I report him for driving without a license if he comes over? Or just let him take his things and leave?
Of course, if he keeps true to his form - he won't even show up tomorrow.
AH has called a couple times on Friday, at least once on Saturday and then called again today at 1:30 pm while I was at my parents.
He started talking about "I think we can make this work" then when I didn't agree, 'when can we sit down and talk about this' (splitting the property etc.).
He thought I didn't want the lot we (I) had purchased about 2 years ago that is adjacent to our house.
I'm assuming he wanted that lot if I wanted the house.
There's no way in the world that I would let him have that lot if I had to live right by it in the house.
I'd sooner let him have the whole works than to have to live next to him potentially - or to have him watch my comings and goings.
Although I agree that maybe we need to discuss this - I was just laying down to rest (due to my incredible headache with this cold) and I was not in any mood to discuss it then.
He also wanted to know when he could get his stuff. His class ring, broken wedding ring, and his grandmothers silverware (that his grandmother gave him!) Ok he also has a lot of stuff out in the garage. And I hope he takes all his porn with him too!!!
So he called again tonight and talked with 2 of the 3 kids. Told the 11 year old that she can come to his apartment any time she likes - that it's hers too. (Not - there is court ordered supervised visitation!!)
He called again later, wanted to know what I was doing tomorrow, as he was going to come over and get some of his things - and he was planning on doing it while I wasn't there. I told him I would rather he waits until I'm home. "What's the difference" he said.
I first asked him why did it bother him so much to have to wait until I was home.
He said , "let me think and I'll get back to you on that." (What does that mean???)
I told him that if he didn't wait then I would have to report that to someone too (I have temporary custody of the marital home- he needs my permission)
"I know what's mine and what isn't" he said, then started being snide - "well, you can call me and let me know when it fits into your busy schedule!"
"No, I'll be home at 5 you can come over then" I said.
My dilemna - I'm sure he's going to drive over here. Only about 9-10 blocks. He doesn't have a license.
The 2 older kids saw him driving on Saturday while they were going to the Easter Egg Hunt. He had told me last week too that if he drives 53 mph - he'll be just fine. He claims he already did his time - but according to the courts - his time didn't start until March '07. (6 months without a driver's license)
Do I report him for driving without a license if he comes over? Or just let him take his things and leave?
Of course, if he keeps true to his form - he won't even show up tomorrow.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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imo , i wouldnt report him , his own stupid actions will get him busted himself and that will be sweet for you to know you had nothing to do with it . he knows the situation he is in and if he chooses to ignore it thats his problem . i wouldnt let the kids go with him in a car but it sounds like he cant do that anyway so shouldnt be a problem .. good luck with him .. its a shame we cant ever really leave them when there are kids involved but the older the kids get , the easier it will be ... i hope !
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Why do I doubt my instincts?
Of course he didn't show up.
He called and talked to 11 year old at about 6 p.m. Then told her to tell me to call him when I wasn't busy.
Just for giggles I did. He didn't want anything - never even mentioned anything about picking up some things.
He can be so predictable.
Of course he didn't show up.
He called and talked to 11 year old at about 6 p.m. Then told her to tell me to call him when I wasn't busy.
Just for giggles I did. He didn't want anything - never even mentioned anything about picking up some things.
He can be so predictable.
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