hopeangel

my other post got me thinking of all the silly or not so silly things we have to struggle with and think about. feel free to add and discuss

kind of like -what to do when the alcoholic is...you fill in the blank

hopeangel

do nothing all the time, but alot of times it is more complicated than that or we are put in a situation where we have to make a decision

i know, for instance, that if ah ended up in jail. I would not bail him out. if he gets a dui i will not drive him anywhere. he will have to find someone else to drive him.

chero

There are a zillion things I could say but my biggie, lately, is about sex.

Seriously, what makes a drunk think we'd want to sleep with them??

WantsOut

My fav story is the time he was "working from home", totally lit by noon, and waiting for a conference call at 1 PM. He was slurring and pretty obviously drunk. Should I let him take the call? Take it and say he was sick? Not let him answer and just explain the next day? My indecision meant that the call went as scheduled. I listened to him slur a bit but made sense and even took questions and answered them coherently, however his slurring seemed obvious to me and when he got off the phone I told him I thought they all knew he was drunk. he was horrified at the thought. It never occured to him that they might know.

It was just another day as usual at the WantsOut household lol

hopeangel

if he was physically hurt i would come to his aid to help him

chero

Physical injury, I'd come.
Good grief, I still come and get him out of jail.
I still fix all his meals(hoping he'll eat and take a little of the edge off).
I pay all the bills.
I clean the whole house.
I make sure every thing is easy for him....what is wrong with me????? OMG!

hopeangel

i think that is what i am struggling with right now. i

the drinking and driving thing...if i call the police am i controling what happens or "causing" him to be picked up? as i write this i realize how silly it is. my God he could freaking kill someone!!! what would the mother of a child killed by him say to me or i say to them..gee,i didn't want to "control" the situation or try to manipulate the outcome. i try to hide the keys or if i catch him take them off of him. then i get mad because i am keeping him from facing his own consequences. the insanity!!!

Sunflower

what to do if an alcoholic....
talks= pretend you are listening as you do your grocery list in your head

calls repeatedly on the phone= answering machine

wants sex= stick your finger down your throat-start vomiting and be ''too sick''

Yells at you=remain quiet all the while smiling inside thinking of how you are going to blindside him with your escape plan

Doesn't come home=a nice hot bubble bath with music and candles lit around the tub--still planning planning,,,

ANYONE ELSE????

SaTiT

She called the cops.lol
The police came to our home. I took the keys.
They gave me chioce. I could send her to jail
if i wanted to. They didn't want to take anyone
to jail. They let her ramble on for over 1/2 hour
in her drunken state. It wasn't going to be healty
for her. She is a social worker. They basically
sent her to our bed room. it's all they would do
if they took her to jail, put her in a room but she would have an arrest record.

an'ka

...Continues drinking=pack your bags, wish him/her the best of luck, and LEAVE. There is no reason why we should waste our own lives because of their decision to drink and not care about anything in the world.

Sunflower

hey SaTiT---when I called 911 after being beaten to a pulp--broken arm--black eye etc---you get the picture--thats exactly what the police said to me--they didn't want to arrest my AS and told me ""this is a family issue"" The cops wantd me to come into the room withh my AS and ''talk it out"" I was hysterical and the cop asked me ""are you on drugs"" I kid you not!!!!!!!!ME!!!! Like I was in trouble!!!!!!!!! An EMT came and realized what shape I was in as far as injuries and took me out in an ambulance--before that her and the cop argued about arresting my AS--she finally said''she is a nurse ya know--she knows all about mandated law""" SLAP---on went the handcuffs---makes ya wonder doesn't it????????? This EMT had actually lost a brother to alcohol and helped me to make the desicion to have him arrested and follow through on it--I would rather he had a record--than be in prison cause he lost control and killed me or someone else...best choice---hardest choice I ever made....