Book Review...
Book Review...
I was trying to take some of your advice and start reading some of the books you guys recommended. But I haven't had time to go to the library or book store and then I remembered when I was in highschool I lived with my youth pastors and they ended up seperating and later reconciled but before they did one of them bought all of us this book...Love Is A Choice. And I hear you guys talking about being codependent...and let me say, it did not mean what I thought it meant...but...
Turns out I still have the book...and also turns out I just might be codependent. I'm a little freaked out! It listed the top 10 traits of a codependent...and OMG I think I have everyone of them!
Is this a good book??? Should I keep reading?? What do I do???
Turns out I still have the book...and also turns out I just might be codependent. I'm a little freaked out! It listed the top 10 traits of a codependent...and OMG I think I have everyone of them!
Is this a good book??? Should I keep reading?? What do I do???
Dr. Frank Minierth and Dr. Paul Meyer wrote that book. I read it many years ago. It goes through what they consider are ten stages of codependency and how to overcome it. They come from a Biblical perspective, but they are not preachy. I should go back and re-read it. The first time around I didn't "get" it and remained stuck in codependency for many years until I was lucky to find a great shrink.
Thanks guys! I actually got a chance to read a few chapters tonight...it was really good and interesting. I'm new to all this, though? Is it normal to be talking about your childhood and parents and past??? I'm still a little confused about what codependency is...I think?!
I was about to post this and it dawned on me, I'm not really as confused as I am scared silly! Surely, recovery can't be worse than what I'm living with now????
I was about to post this and it dawned on me, I'm not really as confused as I am scared silly! Surely, recovery can't be worse than what I'm living with now????
Hey there chero,
Yup, if you notice, we talk about pretty much _anything_ 'round here But yeah, anything that affects our recovery is good to talk about.
It's a word used to cover a lot of different behaviors that all seem to gather in people who's lives have been affected by somebody else's addiction / drinking. One definition is that if you harm yourself in the process of doing for others what they can do for themselves then you are a "codie".
The definition I like for me is that if you get in a terrible accident and somebody else's life flashes before your eyes, then you're a codie.
I don't care much for the word "co-dependency". It's supposed to mean that a person is "dependent" on another person who is "dependent" on chemicals. I think the word is too long and high-faluting. I prefer the word "alanoid" cuz I really feel like living with an "A" is like living on a different planet
Mike
The definition I like for me is that if you get in a terrible accident and somebody else's life flashes before your eyes, then you're a codie.
I don't care much for the word "co-dependency". It's supposed to mean that a person is "dependent" on another person who is "dependent" on chemicals. I think the word is too long and high-faluting. I prefer the word "alanoid" cuz I really feel like living with an "A" is like living on a different planet
Mike
Thanks, Mike, you always make me smile!
Have a great day! , Cheryl
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