LauraB

I'm coming up on 90 days, my boyfriend had 90 yesterday and he relapsed on smack. I'm totally freaking out here. This morning, before I even knew I had a pretty good idea he did so I told his dad because my boyfriend told me that if he ever did, or i thought he did, to tell him... now his dad is talking about kicking him, etc. I've since talked to b/f and he did relapse. I feel horrible but I was only trying to look out for him. I am physically sick wiht pain right now.

Hangin' In

Laura,

It's okay. You did nothing wrong. The dad would have known sooner or later. It hard thing to hide when a person is using.

I hope the b/f will know that a slip doesn't mean doom. He can start again today and make it through just these 24 hours. Nothing more, just 24 hours at a time.

Do ya'll go to AA? If not, I'd suggest it. A great source of support can be found there plus a world of wisdom.

Hang in there and keeping doing the right thing for you which is not using. Tell the b/f it's okay. Just start again, start with today.

Hangin' In

LauraB

Thank you... I attend AA regularly, I'm just hanging in there till my meeting in 2 hours. We are in different states right now which makes this twice as hard. I was supposed to see him next weekend for the first time in 3 months and now I don't think i will. I'm so sad, I just wnat to cry but I cna't cuz i'm at work.

Hangin' In

Laura,

Your HP is with you. It's okay to feel sad. I'm so glad you have a meeting to attend. You know those folks there will understand you and what you are going through.

Laura, your HP has a plan for your life. You just keep working that program and trusting your HP. He also has a plan for your b/f's life. Just encourage the b/f to pick himself up and dust himself off and get back in the game.

And believe it or not, I DID cry at work today. Friends of ours lost their son just this a.m. to alcohol and drugs. I cried all afternoon and no one cared. I guess I looked so pitiful that no one would dare say anything.

You hang in there, hon. With each passing sober day better days are coming for you.

LauraB

Thank you so much for your words. I'm meeting up with someone in the program in a half hour and then will be at the meeting. Thanks for helping me out through the day, it's greatly appreciated. You're right, HP has a plan for all of us and I just need to learn that I can trust and believe that with my heart <3. Sorry to hear about your loss, my deepest sympathies.