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Hi everyone. I just got back from being away for a couple of days. The night before I left, AH only drank 5 nips and claimed that while I was gone he was committed to not drinking at all. He called each night and told me that he was not drinking at all. He sounded sober. But, at this point, I do not trust at all. After driving home today, I walked in to see a bottle of wine on the counter. He came out of the bathroom looking chipper. I asked him how many nips he's already he had. He said a couple. I asked him why he is drinking again? He said that he feels like a new man. Totally better and that he's just drinking "to relax". sigh.
I asked him why if he is feeling better would he put the poison back in? He said I should leave if I was going to yell at him. So I left.
Oh, I'm so sad.
I just wanted to vent. Thanks guys.
Boy, is my heart breaking.
I wish I could fix my poor broken sweet husband. I know I can't. sigh.
I asked him why if he is feeling better would he put the poison back in? He said I should leave if I was going to yell at him. So I left.
Oh, I'm so sad.
I just wanted to vent. Thanks guys.
Boy, is my heart breaking.
I wish I could fix my poor broken sweet husband. I know I can't. sigh.
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Does he think it's ok because it's just wine? Mine has been asking for wine lately because it's not vodka or beer. They were the problem, wine is ok. Makes me realize that he really isn't ready to quit. Smart acting by leaving!!
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Sorry you're feeling sad and disappointed. If he's not ready, he's not ready. Keep reading and learning about his desease, about detachment and about taking care of yourself. That's the best you can do for you and him. I can see you're a quick learner! Good thing you left.
Have you read the books "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews and "Codependent No More" by Molody Beattie? They helped me alot.
Have you read the books "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews and "Codependent No More" by Molody Beattie? They helped me alot.
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Originally Posted by losinghim 
Does he think it's ok because it's just wine? Mine has been asking for wine lately because it's not vodka or beer. They were the problem, wine is ok. Makes me realize that he really isn't ready to quit. Smart acting by leaving!!
haha......mine is a "wine taster and collector" now,too! (used to be a nightly beer drinker and sometimes Jack Daniels kinda guy) I guess it's more sophisticated to him..... or something.
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Well to a food-aholic like me, it's a tasty little cheese cracker....
NewEnglandGirl: It's funny how these "new men" always resemble our "old men." Don't believe a word he's saying. He's just quacking.
NewEnglandGirl: It's funny how these "new men" always resemble our "old men." Don't believe a word he's saying. He's just quacking.
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Nothing has changed. I'm glad you left. He doesn't want to change. He wants to be an active alcoholic. He may fancy himself to be a high falootin' "wine connoisseur" but a tiger is a tiger is a tiger.
If you had stayed, you would have left yourself exposed to listening to more of his b.s. And, believe me, it's a great big CROCK of it that he's trying to sell himself and you!
If you had stayed, you would have left yourself exposed to listening to more of his b.s. And, believe me, it's a great big CROCK of it that he's trying to sell himself and you!
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