sketscher

We work together. He just left a msg to tell me that he hoped things didn't remain as uncomfortable for me at work as they seem to now. His tone was almost rude. Or just annoyed that I didn't answer maybe. Or annoyed that I've completely avoided eye contact and his area when possible. This afternoon we were both leaving the building, I quickly looked away and continued walking fast. At any rate it seemed like he wanted to scold me for my behavior which I promise is nothing more than passive. I haven't said a word to anyone at work about him. I just can't allow myself to be kind to him. I am doing nothing more than treating him like a stranger.

If I call him or answer his call it will become an argument I'm sure.
If I continue working there....I could take further steps to avoid his path, for example parking near another exit, leaving a few minutes late, taking things to his dept when he's on break (often for smokes).
I'm supposing explaining that he's finally crossed a line with me and I can't even look at him is pointless?

I'm just confused. I don't want to go to work and possibly face him everyday like this. I don't like hating him. But if I don't I fear I'll get sucked back in.

I gone without talking much to him in the past but then I didn't have such anger for him. AND I WENT BACK. I'm hoping I have enough strength to move on though I'm in the same building everyday.


any suggestions? new job maybe but that would take TIME. Plus I like my job and benefits.

deax

My Lord, how difficult it must be to work in the same place. I can't even imagine.

I dunno if I'm right about this or not (as usual LOL) but I don't think this is such a bad idea. Essentially you're setting a boundary: we need to coexist at work, but I don't want any unnecessary contact with you. I've always been a fan of playing fair and letting them know what's up. The hard part is making ourselves live up to it after we say it-- clearly and once.

Say what you mean and do what you say but don't say it mean-- or something. You know what I'm gettin at.

embraced2000

that's goooood deax...lololo

bout meaning what you do and saying mean what you don't do or something like that!!!! roflmao

deax

Hehe, for some reason I can never get that one straight....

sketscher

I re-examined my feelings about this issue right after I posted and what I discovered was that I was worried about what HE thought of me. ONce again! I was concerned that I looked like the bad guy at work to him.

Once I admitted that to myself I felt better. I'm not going to waste my time hating him. I decided to be nuetral at work. I will have to on occasion talk to him. And I can handle that. Actually I did today. I wasn't icy to him and I wasn't friendly either.

Today I, that is ME, felt better about me and my recovery.

Like you guys say his opinion is none of my business.