Little Help
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mr c....if i am in love with someone, i love and appreciate everything they do for me....i see their gestures of love and appreciate and cherish them. i can remember learning how to horseshoe because it meant so much to my fiance....he took so much pride in knowing he taught me that skill....and it made me feel good, that he felt good.
see what i mean....if someone cares for you, no matter what the gesture, whether it is going to 5 star restaurants and diamond necklaces....or learning how to horsehoe in the muck of a stinkin barn, they appreciate and cherish the gestures.
am i making any sense?? if your gestures of affections are not appreciated, then may be that they are not being used on the right person.
jeri
see what i mean....if someone cares for you, no matter what the gesture, whether it is going to 5 star restaurants and diamond necklaces....or learning how to horsehoe in the muck of a stinkin barn, they appreciate and cherish the gestures.
am i making any sense?? if your gestures of affections are not appreciated, then may be that they are not being used on the right person.
jeri
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
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Join Date: Nov 2004
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Well I understand all this.
Fact is when I go out, I spend $$. I like the good stuff and I love to enjoy the fact that I can do all this now.
There was a time when I started writing here that I had nothing.
No family, no job, no food, yeah no food.
Life for me has changed a great deal and I want to live it.
Fact is when I go out, I spend $$. I like the good stuff and I love to enjoy the fact that I can do all this now.
There was a time when I started writing here that I had nothing.
No family, no job, no food, yeah no food.
Life for me has changed a great deal and I want to live it.
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I think that's great, Mr. C, I really do. I'm just saying if I was dating someone for 4 months and they gave me a diamond necklace, I'd be a little worried. Some might think I'm nuts - but that's too fast for me. Just something to consider.
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
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Well Denny,
she never had anything like that before.
I just was able to do it.
I liked doing it!.
But alas, it did not matter when the page turned it could have been a candy necklace from the ice cream man.
she never had anything like that before.
I just was able to do it.
I liked doing it!.
But alas, it did not matter when the page turned it could have been a candy necklace from the ice cream man.
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MR C...
Have you ever heard of this book? He's Just Not That Into You?
Well my take on this is SHE'S just not that into you!!!!
I know it hurts and it sucks and you remember the good things about her and want those things back, but you deserve WAY better! Try very hard to believe that you are worth way more than this because you are!!! Stop wasting your precious life and big heart on a human being that has no idea how to appreciate it.
By the way this doesn't make her a bad person. She just might not be attracted to you. This is how life works.
I remember many times throughout my life where I have been interested in a guy who just wasn't that into me. Of course I was hurt but, you know what, there have also been quite a few guys who were interested in me that I am just not attracted to.
You will be fine, trust me. This might hurt for awhile but the faster you get involved in other things and stop driving by her house and wanting to call her, the faster you will meet someone else who is worth it!
Good Luck
Kipper
Have you ever heard of this book? He's Just Not That Into You?
Well my take on this is SHE'S just not that into you!!!!
I know it hurts and it sucks and you remember the good things about her and want those things back, but you deserve WAY better! Try very hard to believe that you are worth way more than this because you are!!! Stop wasting your precious life and big heart on a human being that has no idea how to appreciate it.
By the way this doesn't make her a bad person. She just might not be attracted to you. This is how life works.
I remember many times throughout my life where I have been interested in a guy who just wasn't that into me. Of course I was hurt but, you know what, there have also been quite a few guys who were interested in me that I am just not attracted to.
You will be fine, trust me. This might hurt for awhile but the faster you get involved in other things and stop driving by her house and wanting to call her, the faster you will meet someone else who is worth it!
Good Luck
Kipper
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Thanks Kipper,
I guess one would not know that she was not into me when she was here all the time, and calling 3 times a day.
What seems to be the new dating rule? I mean where I came from all that she did would show that she was into me.
Im confused.
I guess one would not know that she was not into me when she was here all the time, and calling 3 times a day.
What seems to be the new dating rule? I mean where I came from all that she did would show that she was into me.
Im confused.
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Mr C. I'm sorry I came across rough. I guess, welll, maybe I'm a little jealous. I'm working so hard to hang onto my family and my home cars ect, I get no help from My AH. I love my Husband so very much and I hurt so bad inside sometimes I can't see straight.
Here you are single cute the "whole" package and you complain? Well maybe not complain but just get out there again meet people make yourself busy.
You have all this to give? Why waste another minute on her.
What I would Give to be "You" for just one day,
I guess we always want what we don't have
Again, I'm sorry.
Here you are single cute the "whole" package and you complain? Well maybe not complain but just get out there again meet people make yourself busy.
You have all this to give? Why waste another minute on her.
What I would Give to be "You" for just one day,
I guess we always want what we don't have
Again, I'm sorry.
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"You know the more I think about everything that all of you wrote.
The more I do believe that it really is not my issue but it's more of her's.
I was very good to her, and I think did too much.
I took her 5 star restaurants; I bought her a diamond heart necklace for her birthday and helped her get flowers for her friend when he went into surgery. I was there, but I guess she didn’t see or care about any of it.
Hell I didnt even get a phone call when I was sick!"
By Joe, I think you've got it!
Just not that into a sweet, kind, generous hunk of man meat? What the heck is her problem? Notice I said HER problem?
I agree with Denny, if a man I'd only dated for 4 months wined me and dined me at 5-star restaurants and bestowed me with diamonds, things would be moving too fast for my comfort level--way too fast. In fact, it might make me wonder if he was trying to buy my love. Next time, Mr. SM (stud muffin), try slowing things down a bit. Most women I know tend to be more interested in men whom they have to pursue a bit.
The more I do believe that it really is not my issue but it's more of her's.
I was very good to her, and I think did too much.
I took her 5 star restaurants; I bought her a diamond heart necklace for her birthday and helped her get flowers for her friend when he went into surgery. I was there, but I guess she didn’t see or care about any of it.
Hell I didnt even get a phone call when I was sick!"
By Joe, I think you've got it!
Just not that into a sweet, kind, generous hunk of man meat? What the heck is her problem? Notice I said HER problem?
I agree with Denny, if a man I'd only dated for 4 months wined me and dined me at 5-star restaurants and bestowed me with diamonds, things would be moving too fast for my comfort level--way too fast. In fact, it might make me wonder if he was trying to buy my love. Next time, Mr. SM (stud muffin), try slowing things down a bit. Most women I know tend to be more interested in men whom they have to pursue a bit.
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Mr. C,
It is all about her, she's sick, she isn't available for a relationship. It's nothing you did or didn't do.
Ngaire
It is all about her, she's sick, she isn't available for a relationship. It's nothing you did or didn't do.
Ngaire
Originally Posted by Mr. Christian 
You know the more I think about everything that all of you wrote.
The more I do believe that it really is not my issue but it's more of her's.
I was very good to her, and I think did too much.
I took her 5 star restaurants; I bought her a diamond heart necklace for her birthday and helped her get flowers for her friend when he went into surgery. I was there, but I guess she didn’t see or care about any of it.
Hell I didnt even get a phone call when I was sick!
The more I do believe that it really is not my issue but it's more of her's.
I was very good to her, and I think did too much.
I took her 5 star restaurants; I bought her a diamond heart necklace for her birthday and helped her get flowers for her friend when he went into surgery. I was there, but I guess she didn’t see or care about any of it.
Hell I didnt even get a phone call when I was sick!
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Mr. C, I bet that really isn't your photo you posted on your profile page. I bet you just posted some guy's picture there so us girls would all think you were gorgeous, get hooked in, and fall head over heals for you. It's a conspiracy, girls, a conspiracy.
Anyway, Mr. C, all I can think of is just as the A's have to sober up from the bottle, you'll have to sober up from Miss "t". Just as the A's get on their knees in the morning and ask their HP to help them not drink just for today, you'll have to get on your knees in the morning and ask your HP to release you from your obsession over Miss "t". In the evening, again, thank your HP for releasing you from your obsession over Miss "t".
The Al-Anon waltz: Steps 1,2,3: You are powerless over Miss "t", your life can become unmanageble through thinking about her (loss of serenity)
Ask God to restore your mind to sanity (release of obsession)
The best you are able to, turn your will and your life back over to HP's care
btw, Miss "t" is not your HP.
Anyway, Mr. C, all I can think of is just as the A's have to sober up from the bottle, you'll have to sober up from Miss "t". Just as the A's get on their knees in the morning and ask their HP to help them not drink just for today, you'll have to get on your knees in the morning and ask your HP to release you from your obsession over Miss "t". In the evening, again, thank your HP for releasing you from your obsession over Miss "t".
The Al-Anon waltz: Steps 1,2,3: You are powerless over Miss "t", your life can become unmanageble through thinking about her (loss of serenity)
Ask God to restore your mind to sanity (release of obsession)
The best you are able to, turn your will and your life back over to HP's care
btw, Miss "t" is not your HP.
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