dollydo

He hates himself, and until he gets sober for life, he has no real feelings for anyone else. Not my rules, just how it works.

Keep moving forward. It is the only answer.

TomsGirl

But right now he must hate me........I dont want him to hate me.

The addict hates you. The addict in my husband hated my guts and I hated the addict right back. They always hate you when you get in the way of their booze. Don't take it personally. The addict is not "him".

Be easy on yourself, you deserve it. Best wishes, Janet

Mani81

i hope I've done the right thing for letting him go. I can't do the girlfriend to friend thing in 3 weeks time. I can't keep offering myself to someone who doesnt want me. Maybe he never loved me as much as I thought he did. I dont know whats real anymore. I cant stop obsessing what he thinks of me. I must try to keep my cool in the next 3 weeks.

Mani81

I feel like ****. I found out last night that he is with someone else. That explains everything. I feel like such a fool. He is my ex.....

embraced2000

he is with someone else because he has to have an enabler in order for his addiction to thrive and stay alive.

angelonmyshould

"Why do I always attract this kind of men? "



When I go to an open meeting I always say "Hi, my name is... and I'm addicted to alcoholics." This sometimes gets a laugh but it is the truest statement I can make. I have been attracted to alcoholics and addictive people my whole life. But then I found out I couldn't control, change, or cure them. WOW! What a concept.

"Do you guys think I should get rid of him once and for all? He works for me. "


It's not up to us to tell you to get rid of him. You have to think if he's toxic to you. Do you love him because you think you can help him? Or do you love him for him?

Cynay

If this is who he is .....

Tell me, If he is like this, and nothing changes, could you live with him just like he is today for the rest of you life?