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AllTooSober, oh my god! Yes! I've been really trying to sort that one out myself. It seems lately (and this is a change over our year of marriage) the only time he is really affectionate and sits close and wants to talk ad nauseum is when he's drunk! When sober he's got walls up around him. Usually at those times we deal with it with humor and I've adjusted to his "ways" and after a few days of sobriety he loosens up again and is affectionate...but when he is drunk I feel he has no sense of boundaries at all. And then he doesn't understand if I pull away or throw him out of my room, etc. I don't want this only-when-I'm-drunk "love" from him.
God, it's so hard reading all this stuff at this website and what it's making me look at.
I'm really struggling with what is (our) love, is it love, was it ever love...and that way madness lies...dammit, it's beyond "hard" having to cope, deal, adjust, make choices and grieve and, oh by the way, try to be hopeful that we might work it out...ALL AT THE SAME TIME??????????????
Astro, no, I understand about the humor. I am a widow and went through a lot of group therapy in my early days of grief and learned the power and healing capacities and NECESSITY of humor, even at the darkest times. So you don't need to apologize for that.
Ok, back to Amazon.com, I'm ordering books...oh hell, I think I'll stop now and go back to my sewing, this is so depressing. I get enough depression time during the day, maybe I'll come back here THEN. Like in that movie w/ Holly Hunter "Broadcast News" where she times her emotional breakdowns for certain moments of the day, hah!
God, it's so hard reading all this stuff at this website and what it's making me look at.
I'm really struggling with what is (our) love, is it love, was it ever love...and that way madness lies...dammit, it's beyond "hard" having to cope, deal, adjust, make choices and grieve and, oh by the way, try to be hopeful that we might work it out...ALL AT THE SAME TIME??????????????
Astro, no, I understand about the humor. I am a widow and went through a lot of group therapy in my early days of grief and learned the power and healing capacities and NECESSITY of humor, even at the darkest times. So you don't need to apologize for that.
Ok, back to Amazon.com, I'm ordering books...oh hell, I think I'll stop now and go back to my sewing, this is so depressing. I get enough depression time during the day, maybe I'll come back here THEN. Like in that movie w/ Holly Hunter "Broadcast News" where she times her emotional breakdowns for certain moments of the day, hah!
I am, I'm trying to find out about groups in a city near me. There aren't any I can find so far in my rural area. I'm also looking at online groups. I just ordered some books, too.
Well, thanks folks...I'll check back in tomorrow.
He's still in semi-comatose state in the bedroom. I heard him coughing, he sounds pretty bad. I think he made himself sick.
Take care, all, Goodnight...(well, it's night here! And dog needs walkies!)
Well, thanks folks...I'll check back in tomorrow.
He's still in semi-comatose state in the bedroom. I heard him coughing, he sounds pretty bad. I think he made himself sick.
Take care, all, Goodnight...(well, it's night here! And dog needs walkies!)
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