Confused
 

Hello everyone,
I joined this group about 2 weeks ago, don't post much, I mainly read.
My husband was in detox when I first came accross this site. He went to a rehab center after detox...left the center this past Tue.
This waas such a disappointment. He came back and brought a "new" friend along. He met this new friend at detox.
Since we are separated, he has his own apartment. He decided to "do nothing" and by that I mean he is not going to AA, he is not working, he is not looking for psychiatric help (he was diagnosed w/ anxiety and ADHD), doesn't have the meds he needs, doesnt' call me, doesn't even call to find out how his daughter is doing, he is not drinking ...
I am so hurt, so jealous of this new friend, so confused, so angry, In the past two days, I have called him an average of 4 time/day (I guess this is a sign of my codependancy). I feel left out, he is totally sober and doesn't want me or daughter around. I feel he doesn't love us anymore and I'm just hurt.
I haven't called him today and I've promised myself I wouldn't do it. It is so hard, I wish I didn't have access to a phone.
Are my feelings normal? I just want to be w/ him,
Confused,
Alis

Hi alis
so sorry you are going through this rough time
but glad you are here-this is the place to share
feelings, and your feelings are normal and legitimate.
why not try doing something for yourself? get your mind
off of the problem (him) even if you dont feel like it--the
very best time to do something for you! a walk, a movie,
dinner out, call an old friend. Focus on what you need right
now and go for it.
Probably not calling is a good idea try and stick with that.
Have you tried alanon yet? I have found its great for getting
my mind off of my problems and obsessive thoughts.

God bless you today
hugs
liddy

Sorry that you aren't getting a
 

chance to share in his recovery. I'm sure that you got to share in everything that led up to it. I agree with Liddy. If he is taking this time to focus on him, follow his lead and take some time to focus on you. I think the best thing that could happen to him right now is to call and find you out living your life. Keep the faith.
Peace,
Gabe