My ongoing struggle with control issues
But I see myself as sick, if not sicker, than my AH because I think my behavior has power over him.
You see you are getting better. You recognize your actions now. You do them much less than you used to, and let's face it, if the control issue rears its head once in a while its usually for a good cause, rofl in this case, your lawn and yard work DID GET DONE. If it confuses him, oh well, he so confused anyway, it won't last long, lol.
Just remember, be we alkie/addict/codie or all 3, lol we don't get better over night. It progress not perfection, and You my dear Prodigal are showing GREAT PROGRESS in my book.
J M H O
Love and hugs,
Member
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: oz
Posts: 92
Originally Posted by FriendofBill
How about this? Take all the bottles he has hidden, and bring then right out in the open, kitchen counter, quitely, no announcement.
Everyone knows he is drinking, except he thinks he's fooling them.
Everyone knows he is drinking, except he thinks he's fooling them.
been searching for the dream
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Inhaling the mountain air through my mind's eye.
Posts: 240
I had a therapist once that described codie behavior as crazy making. I see this now. I am crazy making. Making me crazy. AH is probably right. I am starting trouble. He will say "Don't start trouble." Ok. I won't and if I start to detach so much that i am not starting trouble and crazy-making then I guess there will be a change. Who knows what that will bring? But I am not able to do that yet. I do get a feeling though of feeling inferior. So I guess to stop all of that I should stop the crazy making.
I thought years ago I was better and all I did was hide from the codieness. I had had so much pain and suffering I hid. I hid in a marriage with a fellow codie who made my world ok until I felt suffocated. Now, I am suffocating myself with all of the codie behavior. I hope there is progress somewhere here. Thanks for the laugh I needed the funny moments.
I thought years ago I was better and all I did was hide from the codieness. I had had so much pain and suffering I hid. I hid in a marriage with a fellow codie who made my world ok until I felt suffocated. Now, I am suffocating myself with all of the codie behavior. I hope there is progress somewhere here. Thanks for the laugh I needed the funny moments.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)