embraced2000

as many of you may know, xah is out of the picture, running from law, and i'm trying to break all ties that bind.

have struggled greatly with the leftover feelings for him, or at least, who he used to be.

so i have been setting some goals for myself each week.

last week, it was to quit referring to him as "my" xah....just xah would do.

this week, i decided to throw away anything he still has here. things i have been hanging onto for such stupid reasons.

for instance.....we used to fish quite a lot and my freezer is full of our catches. we had so much fun on those fishing trips and everytime i open the freezer door, i see the bags of fish and bada-bing!!!!!......here come the flood of memories.

so today, i took a deep breath, opened up the freezer door, grabbed da fish, and tossed them into the dumpster on my way to the bank.

everytime i run across something of his.....in the trash it will go.

i know this is really no big deal.....but it made me feel better.

thanks and blessings
jeri

kermit

I do the same. I go thru something and think, this was or is his... out it goes. Good for you.

TexasGirl

Who needs that stinkin' fish anyway?!

Good for you.

Cynay

You guys crack me up....

I think you are getting a tad bit feisty.

I think its healing and if that is what it takes then Out Da Fish it goes!!!!!

mazey

Grins to you! It feels sooooooo good to throw out! My xA & I fished alot, too. Loved it, and will miss it, but I guess cuz he's gone doesn't have to mean I can't fish!
I, too, have fish we caught, but I have them all and will love eating it! AND, HE ain't got any! Whatever works for us, huh?

marriedithink

I am in the process of doing similar, I can't throw anything out yet. ( legal)
So I am changing things we did together in the house. Little things like changing a light fixture that he absolutely had to have or moving the furniture to where he didn't want it. Little things help so much.

deax

Since our no contact started, I actually delete every missed call I got on my cell phone swo that all my missed calls would be from him. So there has been a list 12 missed calls from him at all times on my phone since July. If someone calls me today and I miss it, I delete that person to keep the list all from him. Calls only get replaced if they're more calls from him.

Now that's stupid. And weird.

So today I decided to stop doing that. I cannot throw things away yet-- and even though I never lived with him, I have little things from him all over the place because he was the type that would give you a little present every time he saw you. I can't delete the 4 voice mails left over from his birthday drama. And in my Al Anon book I use a picture of me and him as my bookmark. I can't stop doing any of those things. yet. But I am cutting out this stupid idiotic missed calls thing I've been doing! Enough already with this nonsense.

steve11694

u can replace it/them with smoked fish. they last a very long time

IrshIzNotSmilin

Hhahahahahahahahahahaaa Now this made me smile. Thanks to all.

kermit

Threw out the golf clubs

Jazzman

embraced2000

i sold the golf clubs

blessings
jeri

FormerDoormat

What a waste. You could have thrown it in the blender and created a tasty new smoothie. Now, that's good bass...

CatsPajamas

FD!

BASS O MATIC ! one of my all time favorite Saturday Night Live skits

Cat

FormerDoormat

Mine, too. I also liked the point/counterpoint episode that went something like this: "Jane, you ignorant slu**..." (had to add the extra "t" to that word to beat the filter).

embraced2000

can hear it all now....xah yelling at me.....jeri, ya "ignurnt slu**"...makin a fish smoothee outta da fish i charmed right outta da wata....why, theys da bestes fish in da world cuz I caught'em, baby.....ya ignurnt slu**.......what a moron.....ya never did give me no respect.....why ya think i have to drink....blahblahblah--de-da-blah

lol
so glad i'm not there anymore

blessings
jeri

Cynay

Sorry F_O_B... had to fix that one and help out the filter.

You too Embraced ...

FormerDoormat

Well, Cynay, I can always get around it but adding three "t's:

Jane, you ignorant sl**!

embraced2000

Cynay

Yea you can, but hopefully you will see that I have to only keep changing it.

Try not to be such a rebel sweetie, it makes my life so much easier.