parentrecovers

HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, K



CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab)

Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home.

No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train route, and only until you can get rides from other AAers.

A lump sum allowance FOR FOUR WEEKS or until a job is found, to be managed by YOU, not us. (Put in checking acct at one time, when it's gone - it's gone - no nickel and diming)

Any drinking or using - move out, locks will be changed.

We will not be responsible financially for your lawyer or court fees concerning DUI charges, or your cell phone bill.

We will manage your health insurance and medical expenses for 6 months based on sobriety and staying clean.

Weeknight curfew is 11, weekend is 12 - after that, doors are dead bolt locked for night.

No user/drinking friends allowed in the house.

We're all adults - we clean up our own messes.

best

A most important boundry... One for you.

Stick to it.
If you say it do it.

BohemiMamaof3

I think it's a good list. Stay tough and strong.

parentrecovers

Thanks to all of you - I still have A LOT of work to do. I'm grateful to be here.

This list is ALL WRONG. I'm setting up rules that make me responsible, not my A. An alanon meeting EVERYDAY this week for me.

I need to really soul search - I don't believe I am ready for her to come back home. Need to speak to her rehab counselors and her - for other options.

I know it in my HEAD, it's my HEART that can't let go.

Today, I am afraid.

Thanks again, Kabbie

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My house, my rules.
The same rules are for everyone. No special rules for each person.
Reinforcement of the rules for certain ones but the rules are the same for all.

Meetings that are a must... ok I leave the house for 2 hours and return...was I at a meeting?

Use, your out.
Disrespect, your out.

Simple rules that I can control with boundries.
I don't mind giving suggestions or reminders from time to time. How I would deliever them is the key for me.
Go to a meeting... vs ... Are you learning anything at meetings?
One directs, the other can be an encouragement.

reader

Is there a halfway house she could go to since u don't feel up to it. That might help u both adjust to her coming out of rehab. Many people feel they really helped them to resist relapses. Just a thought!! Take care of u Kerry