lostnotfound

My court date is today at 1:30 to finalize my dissolution. AH has been threatening off and on not to show up. If that happens, they will throw out our dissolution, and I will have to file for divorce. That would take 9 months or so, plus all the additional attorney fees.

I just want it to be over.

mallowcup

If it will cost you more it seems like it will cost him more too to drag it out. I hope he shows up and you walk out feeling closure. If it does drag out another 9 months, I hope it only strenghtens your resolve.

denny57

good luck, lnf, let us know how it goes

Cynay

Let us know how it goes!

My prayers are with you.

marriedithink

Good luck.

Jazzman

Good luck!

cwohio

adding my prayer that he showed up and you can put this part of your life to rest.

lostnotfound

Thank you all for your prayers. He did show up, and said all the appropriate "yes's and no's". About a 10 minute hearing and our marriage is over. It's sad, but he made his choices, and I made mine. I'm no longer willing to live with and be married to an abusive alcholic, and he chooses to continue on that path. I'm not sure what his state of mind is. He is still wearing his wedding ring, and wore it to court today. I feel sorry for him in a way, because he does not really comprehend what got us to this point. I'm sure that he will eventually find someone else, and start the cylce all over.

For myself...I need to work on figuring out what's wrong with my picker so I don't make this kind of mistake again. Looking back, all the signs were there, and I ignored them. I need to find out what makes me tick and continue to (hopefully) recover.

Thank you to everyone here for all your support over the past months. Your advice and insight has been so valuable to me, and has helped to change my life for the better.

AllTooSober

Cynay

Im soooo glad to hear that it all worked out for you...

I know its sad when it ends but unless there is change there cant be growth. I would not worry today much about fixing that picker... maybe just think about healing and recovery.

denny57

I'm glad it all worked out. I hope you'll stick around and share your experience, strength and hope with those going through the same.

This is the start of a new and exciting journey. Might not feel that way right now, but it's true all the same.

Take care of you.

lostnotfound

Not really worried about it... I just wonder what it is about myself that I chose to ignore all the obvious signs and go into a relationship where I was abused and living with an active A. I need to take a while and examine myself. Not in the market for a new relationship.

mazey

So glad it went smoothly. One more big thing past ya.....heal, and have peace.

mallowcup

Why not pracitce writing Miss or Ms. Are you taking your maiden name back?

Janitw

LnF, Now it's time to look ahead with a bright and new attitude and today was just the beginning.....good job ace. ((((((hugs))))))

Janit

StandingStrong

All I can say is that I'm thinking of you, sending you hugs, and wishing you well.
Hope tomorrow you are feeling better about everything.

lostnotfound

Thanks everyone. I just feeling kind of numb about it. Not doubting anything, just numb. I thought I would feel a huge sense of relief, and a burden lifted. I do feel relieved, but mostly I just feel nothing. Is that normal?

I thought about taking my maiden name back, and decided not to. I'm not sure if I made the right decision or not there. I just didn't feel like messing with having to change everything that is in my current name. I guess if I feel stongly about it later on, I can petition for a name change in the future.

reader

Just wanted u to know i am thinking about u today! I get that numb feeling sometimes. It will pass, try to do something nice for u. I am a cheapskate I usually go by hair dye. My friend and I have a coffee party. I couldn't even begin to tell ya the colors we have had over the years. Take a nice long bubble bath and dream about all the possibilities of this new stage in life.


These are for u!