just married

Hi all,

I'm back!

We had a real nice week and weekend. Went fishing, shopping, watched a couple of movies. He didnt drink anything, ten days sober. Hmmmm?

He left after lunch today, and while tidying up I found Xanax and Valium hidden under a folded tablecloth.

He said he had quit those week before last.

Funny thing is, I wasnt surprised.
But I did get a real bad feeling in my stomach.

So, I'm here.

I cant decide whether to mention it to him or not.

I'll be seeing a therapist for the first time on Nov. 2
Boy do I need that !!!

Tell me I'll be ok.

Cynay

You will be ok hon. Your not in denial and sounds like your taking steps to start working on you.

You did not react when you found them and you are thinking it through before acting.... so far so good.

denny57

You'll be ok - you're taking a step in the right direction by getting help for you.

Good luck

((()))

mfisher

You will be fine.
The dissapointment hurts, but you have to move on.
In my experience confronting them didn't work.
They are the masters of manipulation and some how turn it back on you.
Mine would say "Its no wonder I use, all the snooping around you do" even though I would find the bottles accidently. Then I would be accussed of not trusting him and not being supportive. The initial issue of him using would be lost.
Take care of you, the only person they are fooling is themselves.

just married

I guess I'm not quite ready to move on.

He just now called to say goodnight, and I didnt mention what I found.

Is that good, or bad?

Holly cow, I'm in deep. But I'm laughing about it now.

I keep thinking, what the hell, I've got nothing else to do.
I'll give him a few more months. Maybe, just maybe.......

And I'll have my therapist.

Is it fashionable to have a therapist at 52. I always kinda thought I'd have
my sh** together by now.

I just want to be normal, Thats all.

I did buy myself a pair of black skinny jeans today

denny57

Wear those black skinny jeans to your first therapy session :-)

Sometimes it isn't a question of moving on or not. Sometimes it's good to just do nothing. For now.

lillamy

A pair of black skinny jeans & a therapist's appointment tell me you're gonna be OK, hun.

Disappointment hurts. And then you keep going. Like you are doing.

fixyou

This may not be right but anytime i find my AH stash i throw it away. Only once has he asked me about it , and of course I have no idea what he is talking about. Half the time they hide it when they are stoned and can't remember where they stashed it anyway. My AH uses alcohol, valium,soma,Loratab,Darvocet, I think that is all of them, at least all the ones i know about. He gets everyone of them legally from our family DR. He has promissed not to drink after his last bottle of Jack is gone, funny thing i see him drink it all the time but the level in the bottle always seems to stay full, it's a miracle! He has always told me he was god like, i just didn't know he could turn water into Jack Daniels. lol, I am sorry but i gotta laugh, because if i didn't, well i don't even want to think about what would happen if i couldn't laugh about it sometimes.

Hang in there, I think it is awesome that you are going to a therapist. Very fashionable these days! So are the jeans!