Haredest thing ever had to do....
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Richton, MS
Posts: 135
That was a great trade. I would take cookies over flowers anyday!!!
How many times have you gotten flowers before? Don't let him get to you and stop reading the text messages if he is still sending them. I had to have that feature removed from my phone once I left.
Your are doing great Ayers. Stay Strong for you and those boys.
Sending lots of hugs your way.
How many times have you gotten flowers before? Don't let him get to you and stop reading the text messages if he is still sending them. I had to have that feature removed from my phone once I left.
Your are doing great Ayers. Stay Strong for you and those boys.
Sending lots of hugs your way.
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Texas
Posts: 341
It's very hard, I think your going to find that your journey is just beginning. Keep your support systems up and use them. Once the adrenaline high of making that break wears off your gonna start to doubt yourself and question your actions. Thats normal. Your going to need your support people more than ever. Go to meetings, reach out, listen to others and vent your feelings.
Keep waking up each day and keep moving, even if you don't feel like you can. My mother once told me that breaking from a relationship was like having a death of someone you love. You have to greive, get angry and eventually accept it.
Alanon can help you, tremendously if you let it. If you haven't tried a meeting yet please do. Even if the user is out of your everyday life the disease and it's effects are still with you. You have to start your recovery.
Know where you have been, how you got there and how not to get there again. Theres no clear black and white answers. It's only living every day as best as you can for yourself and your children.
I wish you all the luck as you make your way,
Teggie
Keep waking up each day and keep moving, even if you don't feel like you can. My mother once told me that breaking from a relationship was like having a death of someone you love. You have to greive, get angry and eventually accept it.
Alanon can help you, tremendously if you let it. If you haven't tried a meeting yet please do. Even if the user is out of your everyday life the disease and it's effects are still with you. You have to start your recovery.
Know where you have been, how you got there and how not to get there again. Theres no clear black and white answers. It's only living every day as best as you can for yourself and your children.
I wish you all the luck as you make your way,
Teggie
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: TX
Posts: 371
Thanks to everyone.... I have had my doubts.... yesterday it flooded and I got stranded and had to be picked up by him and taken to the house for a bit for the water to go down.... now he's texting me and emailing me telling me I'm beautiful and can he please call me to say Hi.
I am trying to keep my focus and stay strong. SR really helps....
Will be back tomorrow. Night.
I am trying to keep my focus and stay strong. SR really helps....
Will be back tomorrow. Night.
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: pass the bon bons
Posts: 2,363
i am thinking of you and your sons....you can only do what's best for you and them and it takes a strong woman to do what you are doing...i know it hurts but you only live once and you have to make the best life you can while you are here....i am praying for you for strength and peace....
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Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Texas
Posts: 782
Hi Ayers! 
I was relaying my experience of receiving more flowers than I had vases for, and Minnie told me that she used to not even bring them into her home but would take them to the nearby nursing home. She said once her sender realized they weren't even getting into her place, he stopped bothering. What a great idea, right? You might make some person very happy with some flowers, and you don't have them sitting aroung glaring at you. Just thought I'd pass on the good tip I heard....
Hope you are still doing OK. ((Ayers))
I was relaying my experience of receiving more flowers than I had vases for, and Minnie told me that she used to not even bring them into her home but would take them to the nearby nursing home. She said once her sender realized they weren't even getting into her place, he stopped bothering. What a great idea, right? You might make some person very happy with some flowers, and you don't have them sitting aroung glaring at you. Just thought I'd pass on the good tip I heard....
Hope you are still doing OK. ((Ayers))
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: ND
Posts: 32
Ayers,
One thing that I have to constantly remind myself when it comes to life without my A is that IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!
I always thought he was my happily ever after. I am now coming to realize I am the key to MY living happily ever after and it is never too late to start.
Good luck to you and I am very proud of your strength!
One thing that I have to constantly remind myself when it comes to life without my A is that IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!
I always thought he was my happily ever after. I am now coming to realize I am the key to MY living happily ever after and it is never too late to start.
Good luck to you and I am very proud of your strength!
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: TX
Posts: 371
Yes... choc chip cookies with walnuts. Yum. I finally threw the roses away today....
One day at a time. He has already asked to come to my moms to visit. Then once I declined, he invited me for pizza. It's rough.
One day at a time. He has already asked to come to my moms to visit. Then once I declined, he invited me for pizza. It's rough.
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