The Wedding
Originally Posted by Cynay
Because I was insecure and acted like it (I dont even like me when Im like that.
(hugs) Again, I'll be thinking of you this weekend.
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Been a busy day for me, sorry I'm late.
Wow... I know how you feel Cynay.
I have a very small family with plenty of dysfunction. M had a HUGE family, with plenty of dysfunction too, but they did put the "fun" in dysfunctional never the less. It was nice to be a part of that and I do miss it.
So... what kind of convertible did you get? Those things are great therapy ya know
Wow... I know how you feel Cynay.
I have a very small family with plenty of dysfunction. M had a HUGE family, with plenty of dysfunction too, but they did put the "fun" in dysfunctional never the less. It was nice to be a part of that and I do miss it.
So... what kind of convertible did you get? Those things are great therapy ya know
God, have I walked a few miles in your shoes. I understand completely why you want to know WHY. We want situations that do not make sense to make some sort of sense so we can have closure. It's almost as if he was controlling the situation by sending you a letter, having HIS closure, and leaving you to dangle in the wind. Been there a few too many times myself. One day I finally shrugged and said to myself, "Maybe the God of my understanding will reveal all the reasons incomprehensible stuff happened in my life. Maybe in the next life I'll know the reasons."
One of the crummiest low points in my life was spending the last weekend of July '00 completely alone, while I knew my former H was at a HUGE party a friend of our's in Annapolis threw at his home each year (usually 200 guests). I had gone to that party every year for years. Now I was completely alone and all those people were there laughing, playing horseshoes, eating crabs, taking rides on jet skis (our friend had a waterfront home). I couldn't wait for that day to end!
I am sure you made mistakes in the relationship just as he did. It seems from your perspective that you believe your insecurity was the deal-breaker. It also sounds like that's what he's telling you. By doing so, he did not take responsibility for his part of what caused the split. Now you can beat up on yourself even more. I read the letter he sent you several times. This is just my opinion, but it sounded as if he was putting the majority of the blame or responsbility for the break-up on you. As trite as this sounds, "it takes two to tango."
You've had the rug pulled from underneath your feet. No, it does NOT make any sense why someone would take you to meet his family in May and send you a "Dear Jane" letter in June. This indicates to me that you didn't know him as well as you thought you did or that he was holding things back from you without discussing his concerns.
I could go on and on analyzing this because I've driven myself crazy doing the very same thing in my own life for too doggone long. By the grace of God, I finally was able to stop doing that and realized I could stop it when I had a session with my shrink today.
Stay busy. Keep in touch with friends. You'll make it through this.
P.S. - I lost the only family member I had in May. Both sides of my family should be in the who's who of dysfunctionl psychotic nutcases. I agree with DesertEyes - make your own family and choose who you want to be members. I'm sorry his family wasn't meant to be your's as well.
One of the crummiest low points in my life was spending the last weekend of July '00 completely alone, while I knew my former H was at a HUGE party a friend of our's in Annapolis threw at his home each year (usually 200 guests). I had gone to that party every year for years. Now I was completely alone and all those people were there laughing, playing horseshoes, eating crabs, taking rides on jet skis (our friend had a waterfront home). I couldn't wait for that day to end!
I am sure you made mistakes in the relationship just as he did. It seems from your perspective that you believe your insecurity was the deal-breaker. It also sounds like that's what he's telling you. By doing so, he did not take responsibility for his part of what caused the split. Now you can beat up on yourself even more. I read the letter he sent you several times. This is just my opinion, but it sounded as if he was putting the majority of the blame or responsbility for the break-up on you. As trite as this sounds, "it takes two to tango."
You've had the rug pulled from underneath your feet. No, it does NOT make any sense why someone would take you to meet his family in May and send you a "Dear Jane" letter in June. This indicates to me that you didn't know him as well as you thought you did or that he was holding things back from you without discussing his concerns.
I could go on and on analyzing this because I've driven myself crazy doing the very same thing in my own life for too doggone long. By the grace of God, I finally was able to stop doing that and realized I could stop it when I had a session with my shrink today.
Stay busy. Keep in touch with friends. You'll make it through this.
P.S. - I lost the only family member I had in May. Both sides of my family should be in the who's who of dysfunctionl psychotic nutcases. I agree with DesertEyes - make your own family and choose who you want to be members. I'm sorry his family wasn't meant to be your's as well.
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Shweeeet! You get the manual transmission?
Here's what I got last spring, silver
http://research.cars.com/go/crp/rese...=&aff=national
Yours has more horse power than mine
feeling very inadequate all of the sudden!
Here's what I got last spring, silver
http://research.cars.com/go/crp/rese...=&aff=national
Yours has more horse power than mine
feeling very inadequate all of the sudden!
Jazz, hon, it really isn't the size of the engine that's important, but the way you handle the car. And I've witnessed your driving skills......
Cynay, sweetie, I'm thinking of you. I know it's a complete bummer when there is family stuff going on and you're not included. God knows, I still have a few resentments to work out on that score. Filling your weekend with good stuff is a great option. Look forward to hearing about what you've been up to.
Cynay, sweetie, I'm thinking of you. I know it's a complete bummer when there is family stuff going on and you're not included. God knows, I still have a few resentments to work out on that score. Filling your weekend with good stuff is a great option. Look forward to hearing about what you've been up to.
ROFL
Nahhh I dont think mine does have more power, I got the wimpy engine that gets good gas miliage.... so your safe.....
HEY that is the car I was looking for when I found this one! I love that car.
Well.... Again its Friday and Im use to being with him at his home, swimming in the pool, on Fridays. One day I will not even give it a second thought.... but today is not that day.
Nahhh I dont think mine does have more power, I got the wimpy engine that gets good gas miliage.... so your safe.....
HEY that is the car I was looking for when I found this one! I love that car.
Well.... Again its Friday and Im use to being with him at his home, swimming in the pool, on Fridays. One day I will not even give it a second thought.... but today is not that day.
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