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08-15-2006, 11:00 AM

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denny57

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Originally Posted by pmaslan

Ayers, you really do carry around an extrodinary amount of guilt....

Which I'm guessing you won't once the focus is . . . . . you know where!

08-15-2006, 11:24 AM

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Have you read Codependent No More?

I guess someone wil have to ship you a spare copy! LOL!!

08-15-2006, 12:07 PM

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No I have not read that one yet. I do carry around ALOT of guilt. I think it keeps me stuck in places...

But - I am going to start you all! I promise working ON ME - FOCUSIN ON ME!

08-15-2006, 12:37 PM

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For the longest time, I justified my actions by telling myself how unique my situation was, how much different my husband was than all those "other" A's. Then I read Codependent No More and realized that I was just the same as many others, and my husband was just the same, too. And there was a way out that didn't really require a 'unique' solution. Just some changes in my outlook. And some action on my part................

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08-15-2006, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Jazzman

Have you read Codependent No More?

I guess someone will have to ship you a spare copy! LOL!!

Hey Ayers -- I've got a copy of http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/097...lance&n=283155
The Seven Jewels of Codependency if you're interested. It wasn't my cup of tea. May you'd like it.

I'm sure someone around here has read it. Anyone?

08-15-2006, 01:24 PM

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I have been hesitant to read that... I had heard from my counselor that it wasn't an easy read. I am willing to give it a try.. How much ? I can send my address through PM.

08-15-2006, 01:28 PM

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elizabeth1979

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Ayers, would you clear some space in your pm box Ayers

08-15-2006, 01:34 PM

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Thanks - Actually I just did that!

08-15-2006, 02:20 PM

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Ok. I have a book on the way! Yeah!!!!

08-15-2006, 02:52 PM

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I agree - it's not an easy read. For me anyway.

Ayers found another copy so I still have one up for grabs if anyone else reading here is interested. It won't cost you a thing.

doll

EDIT: The book is taken. May be it could be shared between people here on SR when someone is done with it. Just an idea.

08-15-2006, 03:18 PM

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Im interested in reading it.

08-15-2006, 03:21 PM

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I'll ask that they send it to you when they are done......I don't know why they wouldn't. Much cheaper to pay for the shipping then the price of the book, right?

08-15-2006, 03:22 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Cynay

Im interested in reading it.

Cynay, I have one I can send you if you'd like.

08-15-2006, 03:23 PM

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That would be wonderful. I will PM you my address.

08-15-2006, 03:25 PM

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by the way I'm sending it to Minx1969. I meant to say that. I've asked if he's willing to send it to someone else when he's done.

08-15-2006, 03:26 PM

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Cynay

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Minix (she) is sure to pass it along.

I will pass it along too if Denny does not mind, otherwise I will send it back to her.

08-15-2006, 03:28 PM

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She -- oops, sorry.

08-15-2006, 03:56 PM

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Someone can send to me too....please

08-15-2006, 05:34 PM

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Minx1969

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Yes..I'd be happy to send it to Patty when I'm done..

08-15-2006, 06:35 PM

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Ayers- I haven't read all the responses, but I feel that writing a letter and giving it to him would do nothing to make him take you seriously. If you need to hash out your OWN feelings on the matter by writing a letter, do so and don't give it to him.

I wrote a heartfelt letter to my XAH once thinking that it would have some sort of "impact." PUUUHHHLEASE. The only way it impacted him was that he used it as an excuse to get angry and then sneak out of the house to buy ecstacy b/c of his "hurt." Yeah. Work on you, you, you, you!!!