marriedithink

Okay, this morning I came downstairs to find him sleeping on the couch. I did okay at first, but when he got up to put his pants on................his underwear were inside out!!!!!:uzi2:
So I lost it!
Maybe it was a good thing though. Everything was so clear to me.
I still have to deal with getting him out but I contacted a lawyer this morning, meeting with her next Monday. In the mean time she said to try and get him to leave on his own.
I will try....calmly.
I told him to leave, he said I'll leave when I'm ready to leave.(Very nastily) So it's good that I'm moving forward.
Drinking, cocaine, crack, probably cheating....But I'm impossible to live with, too demanding. My expectations are way too high. Not anymore.

Cynay

(((( Married)))))

Im sorry.

Clarity is a really useful tool to get the motivation going. Just keep the focus on you and the next thing you need to do.

pmaslan

I hope you aren't throwing him out cause his underwear were
inside out.....if that was the case I'd have been thrown out too!!!
I dress in the dark some times so I can relate....LOL
Hang in there you are doing very well.

marriedithink

See that's the thing, at home he dresses in the light. To me that's a fumble in the dark, in a hurry. That was just a kicker. I laughed when I saw it at first and calmly said "Um, your underwear are inside out". It was the flash of guilt and the stammer that pissed me off!
I am not surprised, I have suspected. I think I needed to see that pathetic display. It really was.
I am much better now. I don't feel angry, just done. I feel really good about calling the lawyer. I am ready to move on.

Cynay

I have to admitt...

When I saw the title that was a sputter moment. I was not going to say anything but I just got this mental picture.

BTW dont jump to conclusions hon, it could be something else completely... dont project and dont react.

Think it all through and make decision and take action on the whole picture, not just the one your dealing with now.

marriedithink

I have not convinced myself of anything, and it really doesn't matter. Because we are done. For so many other reasons.
I am tired of being treated like I don't matter, being ignored, put upon constantly. Tired of all the stuff that goes along with the A. My A, anyone's A. Everyone knows what I'm talking about. The underwear thing was good in a way, it was quite a picture. I'm laughing, thinking about it. I've just had enough. That was the icing on the cake for me. And if you knew him and how full of himself he is it would be even funnier.

minnie

Had enough? That's a pretty good place to be, imho.

You deserve better. As does everyone else.

prodigal

The inside-out underwear gave me a chance to have a good laugh. Thanks! However, I sympathize with your current situation. And it's just my opinion, but he probably will leave when HE is doggone ready, which may not be until you file a motion for separation. They love to throw their weight around and he knows he's pushing your buttons. Try to focus on yourself and getting out because he's going to enjoy any successful attempts to pull you into a fight.

marriedithink

He probably really enjoyed this morning then.

robina

Sorry, but I had to laugh a bit at that one! Sometimes the antics of alcoholics are so "out there", all you can do is laugh

(PS - I'm not suggesting your situation is humorous - I'm just saying it made a funny picture in my mind)

Hugs!

best

Seeing how people are laughing about it, I will post my first thought...

How to get 4 days from one pair of underpants.

Inside out is day two.
Backwards is day three.
Backwards and inside out is day four.

And as you read over here
<<<<
Don't get your panties in a bunch.

marriedithink

Very funny picture.......6'2" 230lbs - alot in the gut, hungover, bending over t oput his pants on...all red in the face. Very, very funny!
You have to find the humor right? It's at my house.

deettah

Take care married, HUGS to you.

prodigal

I didn't realize you had such a wild and crazy sense of humor! Man, you really broke me up with the ways to extend the use of a single pair of Jockey shorts! Backwards and inside out -

cocoa

just for a good laugh. When my AH was loaded one night he was passed out in the bed naked. I was in the living room, and heard this slapping sound, I turned to look to see what it was. I was him slapping his a$$. over and over again while saying something I could not make out. This went on for a half an hour. I laughed out loud about that one.

megamysterioso

I feel you there married!!! Shortly before our divorce, XAH came home from a night in jail with NO pants or shoes--- just underwear and a shirt!!! He had no clue where his stuff was or what happened to it. Who the hell needs to live with that sort of indignity when one has choices??? You do deserve better hon and best of luck to you.

Janitw

I can sooooooo relate to this one you guys !!!! lol ...

Mr. Christian

--well at least it was his underwear, I guess it would have been worse if he was wearing someone elses....

marriedithink

Very true!

BSPGirl

Now this is great advice for poor me not having a washer yet. :P

marriedithink, I think even your screenname says a lot, you'll be much happier when this marriage is over, or so it seems to me, at least.

Marte