pmaslan

Hey my friend how are you doing today...any good news to share?.
( I don't meant to imply that you are seeking it out, I know that
you have several people that openly share this with you.)
Here's to a day of good news!

Missy

((Jazz))
So sorry, and this is all of our fears with our addicts. How scarey and will pray for your serenity.
karen xo

Jazzman

Well I did get a medical update from MIL last night, only because I asked her to contact me w/ any medical changes. Curiously the results of a second CT scan showed no signs of a tumor... so *shrugs*. Now the question is her liver function, but w/ no medical insurance they're in a hurry to discharge her so... Today she's out on her own with strict orders to stop drinking or die.

Her poor Mother is a mess.
I'm fine, just rethinking my "minimal contact" rule w/ the family. I don't need this crap TBH.

pmaslan

Well if she is discharged she is in fair shape I would imagine.
I can't see them sending someone out there that is extreme.
I would think they would have transferred her to a county hospital
if that were the case.
They sent her away telling her to stop drinking or die...
I guess that's all you need to know then Jazz.
No you really don't need this crap!

elizabeth1979

Sometimes with no medical insurance they will discharge even if its not the best. Ive seen it happen.

Jazz. Its in Gods hands. I think you are doing remarkable and your recovery is showing...

denny57

I had to do this, too, Jazz. It broke my heart because I was extremely close to my BIL. He still sends me the occassional card just to say he is thinking of me. But we don't speak.

The stress Mel's family is under may also account for the 1st extreme reports.

I'm sorry - just about everything.

pmaslan

Sarah you are right they constantly discharged John when and
he was never well....However, had he pressed on to be transferred
elsewhere I believe that would have happened...same in Mel's case
I would think.

dan1958

The news about the tumor sounds good.??But,what about that she tried to kill herself? Wouldnt that keep her in???

LaTeeDa

I was away for the weekend and just returned to read this. I'm so sorry for your pain. I wish there was something I could say to make it all better.

((((Jazz))))

L

Jazzman

I didn't ask about this specific case, but the family has already tried the involuntary committal approach with no luck. All they can do is continue to build their case.

DesertEyes

Jazz, sounds to me like you're handling this just fine. I'll remember your example for when my ex starts getting into medical trouble.

We're all here for ya. I'm praying for you and Mel and your kids and all the people who are affected by this.

Mike

Cynay

I agree Dan either that or if they know she has a drinking problem and took it to that extent they would put her in that detox program or something... just seems they should have done something.

But then again Im a codi and they are not.... this is her decision.

Jazz you sound so good, Im proud of how your handling all this cuz I know it has to hurt.

*hugs*

deax

My God, that's so awful. So sorry to hear about this. I will keep both of you in my prayers.

equus

Still thinking of you Jazz...

Jazzman

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cynay

I agree Dan either that or if they know she has a drinking problem and took it to that extent they would put her in that detox program or something... just seems they should have done something.

They had her on suicide watch, meaning someone was in the room with her at all times. But if a person is healthy enough to walk out of the hospital AMA, (against Medical Advice) there is nothing anyone can do, except pursue an involuntary committal from a judge.

Then you would have to prove that she is either a danger to herself or others. Now I ask you, what more proof would a person need? The family tried this once before but didn't get it, all the family can do at this point is continue to build their case for an involuntary committal. Maybe they have enough now with this last incident. I don't know. This is the 5th time she has been hospitalized in the last year (ish). 3 times for malnutrition, once due to domestic violence and this was the 1st suicide attempt that resulted in hospitalization. All 5 times she walked out against AMA as soon as she was able to... walk that is.

One would think it's a slam dunk case now.. Knowing her Mother, she’ll try for a committal again.

Cynay

So Sad

How are you and the kids doing? Do they know of any of this?

Jazzman

Her kids don't know about this and neither do mine. They have been through enough already and I'm very protective of what the kids hear.

How am I doing? I feel compassion and sorrow for everyone hurt by this, but for me I'm just detached at this point. Like an outsider looking in. And it has nothing to do with recovery but everything to do with processing my feelings of grief over loss. Sure I get sentimental when I remember the good times, but right now I am remembering all the good that Mel had to offer and it sits well with me. It's peaceful. We sure had a blast
OMG I could tell you stories...

pmaslan

Just keep remembering all those good things.......(((Jazz)))

Cynay

That is a wonderful place to be Jazz....

Sounds good, maybe we can swap stories once I get more toward the end of my grief process....

Im sooooo happy for you! Many prayers to you and yours.

MsPINKAcres

Hey Jazz,

Been out of the office for a few days, so sorry to hear of the rough time you have been going through, but it does sound like you have been dealing with it on a very healthy recovery way -
I'll jump on the prayer wagon and keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers - wish I knew something else to say but that's the best I got - so I'll just ask my HP to get in touch with your HP and send a special blessing your way.
ODAT,
Rita