we come for the vanity, but we stay for the sanity - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read

LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 10-19-2014, 04:45 PM   #1 (permalink)
Engineer Things; LOVE People

Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 3,712

we come for the vanity, but we stay for the sanity

Hey, I am not a usual member here. Much more in the Friends and Family Alcohol group, but this seemed good for anyone who may benefit.

Best to you all.

About The Author | Emotional Sobriety And Food


About The Author

I am a compulsive over eater and a member of program. I have been working a program of recovery since 2005, and by the Grace of God, been abstinent for the most part since I started.

They say: “we come for the vanity, but we stay for the sanity.” That has been true for me.

Program has given me tools to live life on life’s terms. After I did the steps for the first time, my husband got so happy with me. I said to him: “Why are you so happy with me? Nothing has changed.”
He said: “No, you have changed. You used to be the kind of person who blamed every one for all your problems. Now you are a can-do kind of person. You have completely transformed (his exact word) yourself.”
I said: “do you think that it is program?”
“Oh no Honey: you did it!”

The next time I went through the steps, he got even happier with me.
I said to him: “why are you so happy with me? Nothing has changed.”
This time he said: “You’re right. I’ve changed!”
And, he has.

Now, it sounds like a funny story, but really, we know from the AA Big Book, that this program offers us tools for having a spiritual transformation as the result of these steps, and that when we work our program, it speaks louder than a blow horn: like ripples on water, we are transformed as are the people around us.

If anyone would have told me that putting my food on a scale would be a spiritual experience, I would not have believed them. But, that is how it has been for me. Putting my food on the scale has put boundaries around my food, and given me the space to live my life. It has given me structure and disciple, and by practicing the tools and prayer and meditation, it has given me conscious contact with the God of my own understanding.

Having gone through the steps and taken others through the steps, it has become my belief that food is a metaphor. Not only am I powerless over my food — I am powerless over my life.

God is the solution to all my problems. He is my Father and Director. I am His Child. I do not need to feel afraid, because He is always with me and He is always taking care of me. My job is to do His Will and take the next right step.

With blessings for peace and recovery,

Hammer is offline   Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Hammer For This Useful Post:
Lily (10-27-2014), Peacehappyness (10-03-2015), SabrinaQ (10-23-2014)

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:05 AM.