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Old 04-08-2018, 10:53 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Can you guys pray for me, please? I really need it today and in the days to come. My husband is actively drinking - he went to a treatment facility by the encouragement of our Christian counselor and the next day he got blasted and is drinking right now. My ex husband (he mocks my daughter's Christian values and her involvement in church) is seeking to change the custodial situation so he can save himself child support every month. He is ex military, hates God, hates me for leaving him, and I suspect he has NPD because of all the lies (ridiculous lies) that have come to light. I am facing 2 situations that seem overwhelming, but I know I can do all things through Christ. I post this here vs. Friends and Family because you are my brothers and sisters in Christ. Just pray for me. I know prayer works. I love you and I thank you.
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Old 04-08-2018, 12:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You will absolutely have my prayers, LovePeaceSushi.
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Old 04-08-2018, 01:52 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I am definitely praying.

I will pray for a wise and just judge if you are forced to go to court again for custody.
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Old 04-08-2018, 04:11 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Old 04-09-2018, 07:52 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Hey ya'll: Update, and prayers are still needed.

I took my daughter to counseling at our church today and I think she really likes her counselor, which is good. I got home with my daughter to find my husband in our bedroom with the door closed. He was having an argument with one of his clients and he was getting very agitated. Then I see a Big Gulp cup beside the bed, half filled with a lemonade vodka mixture.
I took the cup and threw it out. Then he wanted to leave, so I took his keys. In the process, he became very mad and tried to punch me in the face. He missed, hitting me in the arm. He strangled me. Please know that I was not in real danger, as I am physically stronger than him. It was more important for me to get the keys. If his hands being on my throat allowed me to get them out of his pocket, then so be it.

I had his father come get him....again. My daughter was in the dark about the drinking until today. She is so hurt and disappointed. I am speaking with my lawyer tomorrow to get some advice. These situations are happening more frequently now, and I can't be a good mother and have my daughter in this environment. I think we need to move out. (Husband's name is on the house - not mine).

This all hurts and I can't believe it's come to this. Going to sleep in the bed with my daughter and our dog tonight.....us girls have to stick together!
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Hi LovePeaceSushi

I'm sorry for your situation.

Regardless of whether you're the stronger or not I don't believe domestic violence is ever acceptable.

I'm glad you're talking to lawyers etc.

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Stay safe.

See the lawyer.

It seems to me that you’ve done all that you can do—but physical violence is not something anyone is called to endure.

I am praying for your safety, sustenance, well-being, and a sense of complete supernatural peace as you move forward.

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Old 04-14-2018, 04:00 PM   #9 (permalink)
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How are you doing, LovePeaceSushi?
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Old 04-16-2018, 12:05 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I instinctively started to type "I'm fine", but I'm not. I'm tired. These long-running binges zap everything out of me. AH has not imbibed for the past 2 days. He apologized to my daughter and to me and says he will be seeking help through Celebrate Recovery. I am happy to hear that. This past go-round was hell on earth for me. My daughter was oblivious to it for all this time until that altercation. I am glad that she was. It's stress she doesn't need, but the dance of living the reality of being with an active drinker AND keeping everything looking fine has wiped me out.

My ex is being squirrely right now...not giving definite answers on a vital issue at hand and yet asking for a considerable favor for the summer. I know what he's up to, but he's not going to show his hand until he gets my consent for what he's wanting now. Dealing with him is also exhausting, because it's a constant "looking around corners" mentality. He's just smart enough to be a threat, if that makes any sense. I have PTSD from my relationship with him and even responding to an email causes my heart rate to go up and my stomach to get nauseas.

I have to keep handing all of this to God and asking Him to protect me. One thing I have learned since growing closer to Him is that He is faithful and prayer does work. I am continuing to pray on everything. Thank you for checking in on me.
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I’m glad your husband has owned up to his very real fault in the matter and apologized. I hope he is able to put action behind his words by genuinely committing himself to Celebrate Recovery.

Do you have anybody in the real world that you can unburden yourself to about your ex and his wiles? It’s not good to fight a major mental battle with no moral support—and you are currently juggling two!

I’m continuing to pray for you, and I’m encouraged about his movement toward Celebrate Recovery.
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Old 04-17-2018, 03:16 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Gilmer, I am really benefiting from my counseling at our church. My female counselor is very easy to talk to and next time I see her, I will address this current thing, as it does give me heart palpitations. I am also blessed to have my father still alive and in my life. He knows exactly how my ex is and is familiar with NPDs, so I would say he is my best go-to. I can talk to my husband, too, (now that he is sober!) but with my dad the conversation stays a little more on track.

I am very encouraged by the Celebrate Recovery! I really wish I'd looked more in depth at it sooner, because it takes away every objection that my husband had about AA. I really think if he is serious about attending and going through the program that it will make a big difference. He is also talking about joining a discipleship group through our church. Iron sharpens iron, and as our counselor suggested, it would help hold him accountable.

I'm staying positive and holding tight to Him! Thanks again - I really do value and love ya'll on here.
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That’s really good to hear, LPS!
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I have to keep handing all of this to God and asking Him to protect me.

when i pray for strength i dont get strength but a situation to be strong for.
when i pray for wisdom i dont get wisdom, but a situation to be wise in.
when i pray for courage i dont get courage, but a situation to be couragous in.
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It has been quite some time since you posted your request for prayers, LovePeaceSush. Naturally I do not know if you will ever be back to view your post.
Anyway, I felt rather sad for you after reading the heartache you must have experienced while dealing with the affair. that I simply felt moved to reply.

I do not know if your sad experience eventually found peace or not however, I hope it did and this at least, is keeping you post alive.

God bless.
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Hello LovePeaceSushi,

This is an old thread, yet the most recent one you've started. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Has anything changed?
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Old 04-14-2019, 10:56 PM   #19 (permalink)
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My AH has been in my daughters life since she was 3. Shes almost 16 now. It turns out, her bio dad is an alcoholic and her half brother was just put into a treatment facility for alcoholism and "multiple drug addictions". We are in the mire right now, but my daughter is really involved in our church and I think thats helping her stay grounded. Im going to take her to Alateen and I know I need to get into Alanon....I am just so socially shy that its hard for me. I'm so conflicted. In an hour, my alcoholic husband can go from mean, nasty and verbally abusive to sweet and its almost like he doesnt remember what he said. Very confusing.
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You are, of course, in my prayers, LPS. I'm sorry you still suffer so much abuse at the hands of your husband. You do not deserve to be treated with anything but respect. You are a child of the King--don't ever forget it.
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