Whiners Anonymous ... Part 258 ~ "I Whined For You" - Page 13 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Go Back   SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information >
Register Blogs FAQ Members List Calendar Arcade Mark Forums Read




Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 08-09-2019, 12:21 PM   #241 (permalink)
Grateful Member ♥
 
venuscat's Avatar
 

Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 53,954
I so hear you suki love. I have been through months and months over the years of not being able to do things because of my bone tumor.....and that is only one hand, not two. s

I hate it all for you.
I am so sorry you are going through this.

May I say......err.....wow, they just don't have time or what? Take the Uber money. Then you get to be a passenger and do some people watching, and you don't even have to talk to anyone in the car. Just my thoughts. xx
__________________
#thepowerofus


"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places..." Ernest Hemingway

"It may be raining, but there's a rainbow above you..." The Eagles, Desperado
venuscat is online now  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to venuscat For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 12:30 PM   #242 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
Suki, that's a pretty cold way to say, we don't want to drive you. If they will pay for an Uber, I'd take them up on it so you can visit your mother. They shouldn't have promised to take you if they didn't mean it.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 12:39 PM   #243 (permalink)
Just livin' the dream
 
suki44883's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Somewhere Out There
Posts: 25,646
It made my older daughter mad, too. She said she would come get me and take me to see my Mom. She lives in the same town as Mom, so it's a double round trip for her. We're going tomorrow. I will offer to give her gas money.
__________________
"So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."
- The Eagles

"We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words."
- Anna Sewell
suki44883 is offline  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to suki44883 For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 01:03 PM   #244 (permalink)
Forum Leader
 
Opivotal's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: New York
Posts: 34,821
Suki, I'm so happy your other daughter is picking you up to visit with your Mom. I'd do the same if my Mom was upset.

I also understand your frustration with your health. I sure hope the Doctor's can help you regain some of your independence.
Opivotal is offline  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Opivotal For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 01:10 PM   #245 (permalink)
Just livin' the dream
 
suki44883's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Somewhere Out There
Posts: 25,646
Thanks y'all. I appreciate all of you.

Funny how words you need to hear come at the appropriate time. This song just popped up on my FB timeline. Perfect timing and one of my favorite songs.

__________________
"So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."
- The Eagles

"We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words."
- Anna Sewell
suki44883 is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to suki44883 For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 01:10 PM   #246 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
Suki, I'm glad your older daughter stepped up to the plate to help you. That was kind of her.

Suki, I love that song too!
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 02:06 PM   #247 (permalink)
Learning to live again
 
Hevyn's Avatar
 

Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: New York - Catskill Mtns.
Posts: 39,053
Suki - I'm glad it's working out. Kinda made my blood boil too. They live with you, & it seems they should be appreciative - & do whatever is needed.

Whiners aren't having a good day.
__________________
You are so much more than the worst thing you've ever done. Fr. Greg Boyle

A little voice deep inside me said, "Hello, I am here." It was a small voice, & sounded as if it were buried underneath the cushions of my couch. It was my soul...I had forgotten it.

Hevyn is online now  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Hevyn For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 02:20 PM   #248 (permalink)
Just livin' the dream
 
suki44883's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Somewhere Out There
Posts: 25,646
They lived with me for three years rent free. I asked if they would mind staying another year when I got sick. I'm afraid I could fall and was worried about living here alone. They agreed to stay and offered to pay me $300 a month to help with expenses. So, I guess that's something.
__________________
"So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."
- The Eagles

"We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words."
- Anna Sewell
suki44883 is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to suki44883 For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 02:28 PM   #249 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
Yes, they should help you with expenses! After living with you for free for three years, I think they should well be paying for expenses.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 03:00 PM   #250 (permalink)
Member
 
Pondlady's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Midwest
Posts: 7,064
Suki, I'm glad your other daughter is taking you to visit your Mom. I have two sisters that are geographically closer to my Mom then me and they aren't very helpful.......always makes me mad. I'm so sorry about your health and the toll it's taking on your independence. We whiners collectively hope and pray your doctors are able to bring you relief soon. BTW, no one makes us laugh like you do my dear !
__________________


Pondlady is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Pondlady For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), suki44883 (08-09-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 03:03 PM   #251 (permalink)
Just livin' the dream
 
suki44883's Avatar
 

Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Somewhere Out There
Posts: 25,646
Thanks, Pondy. Speaking of...

__________________
"So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."
- The Eagles

"We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words."
- Anna Sewell
suki44883 is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to suki44883 For This Useful Post:
chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Maudcat (08-10-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 03:15 PM   #252 (permalink)
Ann
Nature Girl
 
Ann's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lakes
Posts: 54,990
^^^^



Dear Suki...you are the sweetest, kindest, funniest and most wonderful person and we all love you so.

Change your will! That will take care of that.

I am so glad your other daughter has a lick of compassion and is willing to help.
__________________
“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.”
― Og Mandino
Ann is offline  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Ann For This Useful Post:
chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 04:10 PM   #253 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
lol Suki, you always come up with funny stuff.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-09-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 06:18 PM   #254 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
Billie seems to be completely back to good health now. It's been over two months since she was at the vet and she's eating her food just like she always did.

I am so glad she loves going for walks. It's one of my favorite things to do. Not just the exercise and fresh air, it's the joy of watching her just being a dog. She's so good at that. I am not nearly as comfortable being a person as she is being a dog.

Suki, enjoy your visit with your mom tomorrow.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-09-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 09:06 PM   #255 (permalink)
Member
 
PhoenixJ's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posts: 21,582
Blog Entries: 2
Suki, my friend- too ell do I know the frustration in fighting to stay independent. I empathise with you. You are a smart girl, and time will help you to adapt to the frustrations you face. Perhaps dress up in a panda onesie?



Least- I am glad your Billie is ok.

Yesterday was just a little too much- I was driving to my afternoon art with rules class. My youngest son messaged me to ask if I had provided some financial details for his home loan app. to his mortgage broker- which I had several days before. He is getting all nervy, trying not to be excited...

I was very sore anyway (could be the very cold weather- weird cold), plus anxiety at feeling inadequate at my homework, plus a little sad too- but then the message rom my son just vaulted me back into that dark place- where I am the bad dad- and all the memories and feelings of the past kicked in. I decided not to go to art- because I could not focus. Got to bed- eventually at 0600 this morning.

But this is not a failure- that would only be if I stopped trying...I also used my new little keyboard to just play music I made up I felt.
PhoenixJ is offline  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to PhoenixJ For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), least (08-09-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 09:14 PM   #256 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
PJ, I'm sorry for your negative feelings haunting you. Talk to us. We love you!
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), Mags1 (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-10-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 11:41 PM   #257 (permalink)
Member
 
Mags1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 11,968
Blog Entries: 1
Hi wonderful Whiners

Firstly thank you so much for all the beautiful cakes and birthday wishes. Ann, coincidence about the peacock cake, everything I visit Normanby Park I hope I can get a peacock to display their feathers, so I can show you all. There’s a beautiful white one, last time he was just sat on a roof looking all austere! one day.

Suki, massive hugs. I’m so pleased your daughter is making the round trip for your visit to your mother.

I didn’t get here last night. I’ve been spring cleaning all week, as much as I can then sitting down to get my breath, things take so much longer and so much effort nowadays. So I’d exhausted myself and just zonked out, wearily but happily. Well rested now.

Love to all xxxx
__________________
Sober Date Twentieth of July 2013

What day is it today?”asked Pooh.
“It’s today.” squeaked Piglet.
“My favourite day.” said Pooh
. ❤️
Mags1 is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Mags1 For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), least (08-09-2019), Opivotal (08-09-2019), PhoenixJ (08-10-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Old 08-09-2019, 11:53 PM   #258 (permalink)
bona fido dog-lover
 
least's Avatar
 

Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: eastern USA
Posts: 81,130
Blog Entries: 32
Time to snuggle with Billie.
__________________
I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them.

Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole.

Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus

Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

least is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to least For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), Mags1 (08-10-2019), Opivotal (08-10-2019), PhoenixJ (08-10-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Old 08-10-2019, 02:46 AM   #259 (permalink)
Member
 
Mags1's Avatar
 

Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 11,968
Blog Entries: 1
Night night least and Billie
__________________
Sober Date Twentieth of July 2013

What day is it today?”asked Pooh.
“It’s today.” squeaked Piglet.
“My favourite day.” said Pooh
. ❤️
Mags1 is online now  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Mags1 For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), least (08-10-2019), Opivotal (08-10-2019), PhoenixJ (08-10-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Old 08-10-2019, 04:10 AM   #260 (permalink)
Member
 
PhoenixJ's Avatar
 

Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posts: 21,582
Blog Entries: 2
Least, thanks. I know such moods/emotions pass- they no longer control or define me. BUT I still feel rather sorry for myself when they hit.
PhoenixJ is offline  
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to PhoenixJ For This Useful Post:
Ann (08-10-2019), chicory (08-10-2019), Hevyn (08-10-2019), least (08-10-2019), Mags1 (08-10-2019), Opivotal (08-10-2019), Pondlady (08-10-2019), venuscat (08-10-2019)
Closed Thread


Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:20 PM.