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Don't mean to criticize

Posted 01-14-2013 at 12:40 AM by deeker

When we judge or criticize another person, it merely says something about ourselves
.If I judge it says I am intolerant and unaccepting and I am not looking at my own stuff.What are my motives? .



The Bible says why look at the speck in another's eye when you have a plank in your own.And do not judge less ye be judged .

But it happens and a thick skin is a gift from God when people criticize you .






If I am criticized I pause for a moment,I try to control my emotions and think more clearly .



This is especially helpful when someone I do not know that well offers their opinion on something I've done. If I canít say anything nice in response, I donít say anything at all! .


If I am feeling upset about some criticism, itís important that I consider why it was given to me in the first place. I spend some time thinking about what I have been told .


I try to avoid jumping to conclusions, if at all possible! .



Oftentimes, taking just a few minutes out of my time to think about why this person felt compelled to talk to me can help me see the situation from a whole new angle .


Sometimes I get a second opinion. I ask another close friend, family member, or coworker if they also have the same feelings .

If they do, then I have even more motivation for changing .


There is usually some truth in a statement of critcism, so I need weigh it out carefully before reacting .

I am learning not to react so impulsively. When I was drinking I reacted and got all defemsive and tried to explain myself or I looked for your faults . I don't have to do that anymore .


I don't give my peace up nearly as easily as I used to ..
Except with my damn Husband lol Hardest place to work this program is in my own home ..
As far as me criticizing others, yes I am guilty of it too. I always need to check my motives. Am I really trying to help this person or am I trying to make myself look and feel better .

I have not walked a mile in their shoes .

It's a process, I am learning what brings me happiness and what upsets my joy , and what affects my relationships negatively . I like being happy .

If I give love out , I get it back. If I give out hatred, That is what I get back .


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    SORRY DUPLICATE
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    Posted 01-14-2013 at 12:49 AM by deeker deeker is offline
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    It's hard for me to get away from being judgmental. Only until I see what a smoke-screen such judgments have been can I take steps to be kinder. Why would I want to examine myself and my motives if I can criticize you instead? Progress is a long road...
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    Posted 01-15-2013 at 04:52 AM by sober1ck sober1ck is offline
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    To feel happy?
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    Posted 01-15-2013 at 11:47 AM by deeker deeker is offline
 


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