This thread is great. This happens to be one of my favourite topics (yes, really!).
Who is freya? She sounds amazing.
I have had an interest in authentic sexual expression (and exploration) for many years, seeing it as a physical mode of spiritual development. Society being the way it is, there is nothing easy about accessing repressed sexual desires, expressing them in a healthy way ... and, for the gold star, communicating them to a partner. That communication needs to be direct and yet sensitive, the partner needs to be mature, respectful and absolutely trustworthy.
I abstained for the first year of sobriety and then met a wonderful partner. I can't tell you how quickly it became obvious this person was worth waiting for and I'm so glad I found him after I had done a lot of growing up.
None of our subsequent explorations could have been done while I was drinking. Absolutely NONE would have been as profound and soulful.
Imagine two travellers walking down a path overgrown with weeds and vines, able to make our way only by working together constantly (verbalising, listening, reflecting inwardly, asking), and thus being rewarded again and again with treasures along the way. That's the path.
We are not currently together but we still talk. What do you think we talk about most? Ha. The exploration continues.
This journey is one of the most exciting things that has happened to me post-sobriety. I haven't been able to express it on this forum much at all so thank you to the OP for starting this thread - although I'm no biker!!
Sobriety date: Dec. 14, 2015