Janitw

OMG folks ...one hour till show time. AH drove passed the house last night which is out of his way home to his hooch's house...he probably didn't think I'd see him but I happened to be sitting on the front porch talking on the phone and suddenly there went his company truck driving passed. I'm a nervous wreck and couldn't sleep at all last night. But I promise I will shed no tears and I'll make you all proud. If the hooch is there with him I swear I won't be held responsible for my actions or behavior though. Let's hope he's not that stupid....wish me luck.

Janet

denny57

Good luck, Janet

Post again after it's over. Remember - head held high!

pmaslan

I wish you luck......
now go get em.............

Pick-a-name

Prayers going out to you,Janet.

cwohio

take a deep breath and breathe - you can make it thru this! prayers that it goes quickly and calmly!

Cynay

Good Luck...

One of the things that bothers me the most is when someone is indifferent to me...... Might want to keep that in mind if the gf is there sweetie.

Keep you dignity and self respect.... and post when you get back!

ASpouse

If you shed tears we will still all be proud of you! Like Denny said "Head held high!"

Janitw

Well - that was fast. I went in the room and he was already sitting there alone by the way. I sat down and we looked at each other and I said, "You look old, and like ****, ride that ho and tip another one. " This was said privately between us where no one could hear....it felt great. We get in the mediation room and all she wanted to talk about were the kids. The kids and the kids...I informed her that our kids were not minors and I am not here to discuss them. Then she said then why are we here?? I said I was told reconciliation is what my court papers said. Then I told her that I was not open to any form of reconciliation what so ever. He is still and active alcoholic living with the woman who he left us for and no marriage councellor out there will work with an active alcoholic anyway. Not until he is sober for at least 6 months. And I just want this divorce to proceed and if possible be expidited asap. And I heard AH snipe in I don't want it either. Then I just thanks the mediator for her time and said this mediation is over and I am leaving. And I left.

How was that guys.

GingerM

Way to set boundaries! You go! Here's hoping things will work out as quickly as the glacial courts can push it through!

pmaslan

All I have to say is I hope that little dog and pony show didn't
cost you anything more than just your time.....sheesh.....

LaTeeDa

I'm glad it's over and that you feel better. I hope you can now move on and get past all your anger and resentment. No sense keeping yourself miserable over his choices, huh?

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L

denny57

You crack me up Janet. I wonder if I should use your ride that ho line LOL!

I hope you looked great and you feel ok after it all. What's next?

Jazzman

Well that certainly clears things up. What's next? Wait for a court date?

Janitw

By the way - the rumor must be true...He only could have weighed 120 lbs at most and he was always 185. His face was all sunken in and he had all this loose fappy skin under his chin which he never had before....oh you guys he must be doing his hooch's DOC with is meth...His clothes were rags and I didn't see his truck outside so she must have been somewhere lurking around someplace close. How sad this all was.

pmaslan

I can't believe they dragged you down there for that!
I too hope this ends quickly so you can move on with your life.

elizabeth1979

Janit,

If I may, I would just like to add that I dont think it ever benefits anyones recovery to name call the person the spouse cheated on them with.

Its not putting the focus on you and your recovery.

Im glad you feel good about things though and do hope things progress as you would like!

Why exactly did he even bring her, what is her relevance in your ending marriage?

ICU

What's a hooch?

megamysterioso

Janet-- I'm glad that you got through that quickly and rather painlessly. I too hope that the divorce can be finalized ASAP so that you can move on to much bigger and better things.

megamysterioso

Hooch is like a "skank" ICU.

Janitw

Elizabeth - I probably shouldn't have called her a hooch but all through the year I've been a lady about everything and today I just didn't feel the need to. We all heal in our own way and since he has taken and taken without even a concern for the kids and I - I feel he had this little bit coming since we haven't spoken in a year except for his lame attempt at the grocery store that he followed me to on 7-3-06. Which I didn't say one word to him that day I just put my hand up and walked away from him. Believe me I was gentle....I am proud of myself for the way I performed today and it sure was better than getting in there and melting down. But I do see your point of view.