jackson123

Does it matter how often they drink or how much they drink? I know that sounds confusing but some alcoholics don't drink everday. Do they withdrawl on the days they don't drink?
I'm just curious because ABF drinks everyday. Vodka. I never realized that stopping completely could be so bad on his system.

CatsTail

If he drinks Vodka everyday then detoxing would be very hard on his system.

Ngaire

denny57

ok, jackson - cell phone bills, detox - enough about him! what about you?

jackson123

Ya know this is all new to me. I come here for info and to ask questions. He drank to much. I kicked him out. I have no contact. I wish I had the strength you all have. Were you always this wise and strong? I'm not being sarcastic either.

LaTeeDa

When I was new to this, I needed reminders to put the focus back on me. That's all it is. Reminders to keep it about you.

L

jackson123

But wouldn't this be the place to ask a question about Detox?

pmaslan

Why do you care? You kicked him out, you have no contact....
He wants to drink.....moot question really............

pmaslan

If you are looking for the procedure of detox..I'd say google it...
that is how I get my research information.

denny57

No way! I did it all. When I started recovery - and it was new to me - it was the people who kept reminding me to focus on me that helped me along.

I truly do know how hard it can be. I lived it for many years. Even after I asked my AH to leave, I did some things that kept me "in contact." I had to believe those who had been through it (here and at Al-Anon) who said it got better. They were able to say that because they had been through it.

I have a pretty hard head so it took me a very long time to accept that I didn't necessarily know the best way to handle all this. When I became willing to truly listen to others who had done it, I kinda let go and free-fell into a new way of living.

I don't think of myself as too wise or strong yet, but I will admit I'm stronger and wiser than I used to be. It's a process.

I'm sorry if you took my question the wrong way - I was just trying to bring the focus back to you.

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jackson123

sorry next time i'll google

pmaslan

Sorry if you were insulted by my google comment.
I guess I just don't understand why you are taking so much
precious time worrying about and researching his problem.
You said he still drinks everyday.....
If you have no contact there would really be no way of knowing
that for sure, now would there.
I think the more you take care of yourself and what you can
do for you would be time better spent.
I do understand how you feel, I too have felt that way in the past...
but this is what I have found to work for me....working on me....

DesertEyes

Nope. Doesn't matter at all. Each person has different tolerance to chemicals. Some people can drink like a fish for years and then just stop. Other people have _one_ drink and are hooked for life. That's why the _drinking_ is not part of the definition of alcoholism, it's the _effect_ on a person's life that matters.

Withdrawals work the same way, it depends on their liver. Some livers get rid of the alcohol right away, some take a long time. An alcoholic with a slow liver will still have a lot booze in their system for days. If they also have a high tolerance, and have been building up a store of alcohol in their fatty tissues they can show alcohol by-products in a liver panel as much as a couple _months_ after the last drink.

Us co-dependents are similar. The chemical cause of our problems (our "A" ) can be gone from our lives for weeks or months, but we still think and worry and obsess about them. It took me a whole year before I came out of my "withdrawls" from my "addiction" to my ex-wife. I still get the ocassional "twang" now and again. What works best for me is the same as what works for the "A". Complete abstinence from the "drug of choice" and continuous maintenance of my recovery.

Mike

loristreily

Jackson read"codependant no more" it helps you learn how to detach yourself from him and concentrate on your recovery. Once you are recovered and ready to stay detached, then you can try to help him.

CatsTail

Jackson,

You could post detox questions on the A.A board. They could tell you.

How are you?

It takes practice to keep the focus on you but you'll get there.

Ngaire

Cynay

I have to admit

When I first came here and would post my questions .... it use to tick me off when they would say to put the focus back on me..... I thought I was.

It took awhile for me to really "get it" and even then I had relaspes more then a few times.

I cant help with the detox question but that was a good suggestion to ask in the AA boards if you really want to know hon.

elizabeth1979

My ex drank anywhere from 2 pints to a fifth of cheap vodka a day. Yeah, at that level detox can be fatal.

Please, if you can, try to worry about the things you can control. I think your questions stem from concern.
I understand concern but its not your cross to bear.

jackson123

I was really just curious about detox. I'm not "wasting precious time" worrying about it. I was just amazed about how bad it can be. I guess after reading all the posts here I just have questions.

elizabeth1979

HUH?

pmaslan

That's what I thought Sarah............