reikihelps

Stuck. Yep, that's me. For some reason, I just can't choose a sponsor. I don't have a sense for who to ask and so, I have not asked anyone. Go ahead lemme have it. Is it necessary to have a sponsor? Things with our "a" are going very well. He is working his program for 4 months (thank you God) and as I suspect, my mindeverybodyelse'sbusiness stuff is still here. Hence, the reason (well one of a list) why I continue to read the literature and go to some meetings. So, any feedback is much appreciated.
best wishes to all
Reikihelps

Cynay

Unless your hit by a 2x4 like I was a sponsor is hard to choose....

I needed a sponsor, otherwise I would not have done the steps and what I was supose to do. It makes me accountable and keeps my recovery in focus.

Just look for someone that has what you want.... keep looking till you find them, dont worry it will come.

Minx1969

you can choose a temporary sponsor..just ask someone with more years in the program...

lots of times temporary sponsor become permanent..

you may want to look at your reasons for not chosing one..

ChildlikeFaith

I'm having the same problem. Actually, the hardest thing for me is that we only have four choices for meeting in our town, and only one fits with my work schedule. Then, there are only five people that go to our meeting.

I just keep praying and feel that the Lord will lead me to the sponsor I'm suppose to have when it is time.

BigSis

I don't think I was ready for a sponsor until I had been in program for a while.

I prayed for one.

I found one when SHE and I were BOTH at the right point in our recovery... she has 20 years, and I had about 6 months.

I looked for someone with my situation.
I looked for someone who had a sponsor herself.
I looked for someone who had worked the steps.
I put out a request when it was my time to share, at nearly every meeting.
I went to more than just my home group meeting to search.

I am a big believer that we need a sponsor to work the program... but if you aren't ready, or can't find a sponsor - just do what you can until one comes along...


((((ReikiHelps))))

denny57

I believe it will happen when it is supposed to. Keep your ears open.

I have heard stories about those who have not gotten a sponsor for over a year, 2 years or never. It's true I kept hearing "get a sponsor" but that doesn't mean right now! It took me about 6 or 7 months.

Work your phone list(s) and keep talking to everyone.

robina

I'm glad to hear that things are going well with your son.

Maybe the sense of urgency is just not there right now... to me, a good sponsor is not so much a warm shoulder to cry on, but someone who will continually challenge me to work my recovery program.

God bless and continuing best wishes with everything

reikihelps

Thanks so much everyone. This helps. I will pray about it and let it go. I'm sure if I am "aware," I'll know when I see her. Since I have been going to meetings for about a year, I was being hard on myself and expecting to have more done by now. It's a process.....one day at a time, right?
I think I'm also going to purchase a step book and see who I'd like to lead me through the questions.
fondly,
Michele