End of the Struggle
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End of the Struggle
Well......
perhaps it did not work out how I wanted, but if I could not have what I wanted this is a great second.
Found a house for 50.00 more then Im paying now... cute little home that will be just perfect for my daughter and I. The best part is I told her I was going out of town the end of May and would need to rent about the 20th....
She gave me the total move in cost, said that I can come sign the lease anytime.... and .... She is giving me the keys tommrow when she comes to my office so I can sign the lease!!!!! So she is actually giving me a week free and two weekends to move!
perhaps it did not work out how I wanted, but if I could not have what I wanted this is a great second.
Found a house for 50.00 more then Im paying now... cute little home that will be just perfect for my daughter and I. The best part is I told her I was going out of town the end of May and would need to rent about the 20th....
She gave me the total move in cost, said that I can come sign the lease anytime.... and .... She is giving me the keys tommrow when she comes to my office so I can sign the lease!!!!! So she is actually giving me a week free and two weekends to move!
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No doubt.... It must have been ment to be... cuz
I just found the house yesterday, went to see it last night and was approved this afternoon... The Electric and Water are already in my name and the painting starts tommrow night!!!
I just found the house yesterday, went to see it last night and was approved this afternoon... The Electric and Water are already in my name and the painting starts tommrow night!!!
One brief hour...
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That's wonderful news Cynay and I'm so happy that your new landlord is so flexible. That sure makes things easier doesn't it??? All the best to you and your daughter in your new digs. 
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Yea Im thinking its ment to be as well. Now I will have to SHOP, cuz I will need new stuff ..... Also Im thinking that a curtain making party with some friends could be fun too!
I have to say though that SO was really suprised to find me so happy about this. He said that he thinks its a good thing but it "feels" wrong to him... whatever!
I told him that the dynamics of the relationship would change, Im not willing to spend as much time working on the relationship and will want to focus more on "me" then "we" and that includes doing things I like that I changed when he and I were talking marriage... He seems fine with it so Im not going to worry about it.
For today this works for me.
I have to say though that SO was really suprised to find me so happy about this. He said that he thinks its a good thing but it "feels" wrong to him... whatever!
I told him that the dynamics of the relationship would change, Im not willing to spend as much time working on the relationship and will want to focus more on "me" then "we" and that includes doing things I like that I changed when he and I were talking marriage... He seems fine with it so Im not going to worry about it.
For today this works for me.
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Originally Posted by Cynay
I have to say though that SO was really suprised to find me so happy about this. He said that he thinks its a good thing but it "feels" wrong to him... whatever!
What's wrong with this picture? He could always get a cat I suppose to move in with him.
(oops karma police will be on me).
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Cynay...great news...
I'm not going to go into what Mr. R said about you being happy.....
I'm sure you have your own thoughts on that comment as well.
I am really happy you found something that you can call home for you
and your D. I know it was meant to be just by the timing....
And you know my friend timing is everything...
I'm not going to go into what Mr. R said about you being happy.....
I'm sure you have your own thoughts on that comment as well.
I am really happy you found something that you can call home for you
and your D. I know it was meant to be just by the timing....
And you know my friend timing is everything...
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Yea... This all just worked out and I have no doubt Im being taken care of here.
SO just today said he thinks I should be moving in with him, but understands my boundries... I just thanked him for his understanding and told him again that the commentment is the same, the ring is just an outward sign of his internal intent... Also I think that if he really wanted me with him, he would feel peaceful about it and it would be a done deal... he would not have the hang up about being engaged.
GF - He is really helping me out with everything and wants me to be happy, Just like I had hoped to be engaged and moving in with him and Im sad and disapointed.... He wanted me to live with him without being engaged so he is sad and disapointed.... I think his concern is my detachment really...
He is probably suprised I did not try to "talk" him into it. I have decided that Im going to be happy.... If God is watching out enough for me to provide me with a home so quickly... he will watch out for the rest ... not my will. I honestly feel that if Mr. R were ready to make a committment to me he would have done it, I will not take the risk of moving my self and my daughter in with him... when he is not willing to take a parcial risk himself and make the statement of his intent.
Im not saying its a guarentee... that in 6 months we break cuz we cant live together... Im saying that if he is that unsure about his intent... we dont need to even go down that road.
SO just today said he thinks I should be moving in with him, but understands my boundries... I just thanked him for his understanding and told him again that the commentment is the same, the ring is just an outward sign of his internal intent... Also I think that if he really wanted me with him, he would feel peaceful about it and it would be a done deal... he would not have the hang up about being engaged.
GF - He is really helping me out with everything and wants me to be happy, Just like I had hoped to be engaged and moving in with him and Im sad and disapointed.... He wanted me to live with him without being engaged so he is sad and disapointed.... I think his concern is my detachment really...
He is probably suprised I did not try to "talk" him into it. I have decided that Im going to be happy.... If God is watching out enough for me to provide me with a home so quickly... he will watch out for the rest ... not my will. I honestly feel that if Mr. R were ready to make a committment to me he would have done it, I will not take the risk of moving my self and my daughter in with him... when he is not willing to take a parcial risk himself and make the statement of his intent.
Im not saying its a guarentee... that in 6 months we break cuz we cant live together... Im saying that if he is that unsure about his intent... we dont need to even go down that road.
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