New and I really do not care any more!
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: UK
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New and I really do not care any more!
I have lived with a alcoholic for over 7 years. Every weekend is the same thing. Buy bottles of Scot whiskey,drink till he passes out----he wakes up----the whole process starts again. He smokes two/three packs of smokes a night. Burns holes in carpet---spills alcohol all over. I have gotten to a point---I know I am trapped in this ridicolous situation. Married this man 6 years ago with a dream of returning to the USA to live. But as time has flown by the dream has gone up in smoke. Like one of his smokes. He was arrested and not charged three years ago for downloading porn---which he said was his mistake. Reason I don't leave? No money--no moral support from friends or relatives. Plus I am over the age of 50. Medical insurance for a single woman is very expensive in the USA. So what can I do? Anyone have any ideas? I want out of this shame of a marriage. Before its to late and I never see the USA again. Presently I really am at the point I do not care any more. I am sick of this cycle. I am sick of who I have become. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
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Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: South Shore MA
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Welcome to SR
For a start you could read the posts that say "sticky" beside them.
You will find many answers and support at Al Anon meetings as well.
There are answers and support all around. As you gather the info, you will be able to see a light at the end of the tunel.
Your not alone.
For a start you could read the posts that say "sticky" beside them.
You will find many answers and support at Al Anon meetings as well.
There are answers and support all around. As you gather the info, you will be able to see a light at the end of the tunel.
Your not alone.
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 4,955
It sounds like you know what you want, and what you don't want.
Now you need a plan.
Decide where you want to be and what you want to be doing in 90 days.
Then do something every day to make that plan happen.
They may be small things, but each small step will get you closer to your destination.
Now you need a plan.
Decide where you want to be and what you want to be doing in 90 days.
Then do something every day to make that plan happen.
They may be small things, but each small step will get you closer to your destination.
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: Parker, CO
Posts: 495
Sounds very miserable. You could get reasonable insurance coverage in the USA if you got a job with insurance. Don't let your dreams go up in smoke. Work on you and do waht is best for you right now.
been searching for the dream
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Inhaling the mountain air through my mind's eye.
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Any family in the US? If so can they help get you up on your feet again or a friend in the US. There are programs not always so great but what about considering a women's shelter for a short period of time. There is a place or used to be in Metuchen, NJ called Women helping Women it was a shelter. I do not know if this is feasible for you but you are in hell so if you have to spend a little time in change and that is hell too which hell is worse. Do you work? Do you have any schooling to fall back on?? Take it slow and do some research check out search sites in US for jobs. I hope this works out for you. Are you a US citizen that may matter too.
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