Tally

I am...I know ALL men aren't the same, but my ex was a cocaine addict, now my current is an A...

I can't help but say on occassion "I HATE MEN"!!!!

I know deep down it's not a gender thing, but then maybe it is (sorry guys) or maybe it's an addicts thing.....

Ok, changed my mind maybe....can I say "I HATE ADDICTS"?

Or maybe just selfish, self obsessed, manipulative, lying, cheating, argumentative, violent, bulling, egotistical, self righteous addicts.

Ahhhh, feel better now! Thanks!

Ooo and can I say...Sunshine....How jealous am I, I need to borrow her "balls"!

nutz

I'm going though the I hate all women stage at the moment.
Actuall, It's a bit of I hate all peaple.
Actually I don't hate anybody, I just think peaple are maniacs.
Actually, I don't think all peaple are maniac. Life just crazy sometimes.
Actually, Life is not crazy,some peaple are hurtred and don't know better.
Actually, I'm hurted and I should know better.
Actually, I do know better, I'm just angery
Actually, Life is unfair and that's why I'm angery.
Actually, Life isn't unfair, Sheit happens to peaple everyday.
Actually, i should be greatful, Most peaple don't have a clue.
Actually, I don't have a clue, becuase I don't have all the answers.
Actually, It's good to not have all the answers, that why I'm not mad.
Actually, I think women are beautiful beucase they don't know either.

Zoey

Men are wonderful once we realize how different we are. Once we accept, that for sharing things we go to our girfriends as men cannot handle feelings.
If they drank when we met them, then we are supposed to accept that. They hide some other things maybe as we all do, but they are open about drinking, it is a man thing, to be proud of etc. Society caused that.
Once they cross the line into alcoholism it is extremely sad.

We all assume that with age people stop drinking except maybe holidays. WRONG
Some taper off after the childern come, but those were never alcoholic.

We females should be taught to check out all boyfriends for what inherited genes they might have. Course we females should check our own also, for prevention.

Why I wrote this I do not know, as I don't blame you for hateing addicts. We just need to do that sometimes, cause we are human. Perhaps better to hate than go into depression, sometimes anger makes us find solutions. BIG HUGS

DefofLov

Hating addicts or men will not give you the peace and serenity that you probably need. It just eats away at you. You are feeling a lot of pain and frustration right now, which is completely understandable but you must let that pain go and be more proactive of seeking wholeness.

Release your frustrations, think back on what you did to end up with these two guy and what you can do now to prevent that from happening again. There are wonderful men who are not addicts out there. They can love you for the person you are and they can provide you with what you look for in a mate.

It is okay to feel your frustration but the bottomline is that it is healthy to let it go and move on to a happier place instead of walking around listing the things you hate.

Kellye C

Believe it or not, there are good men out there, we just haven't found them. Why not you might ask? Because our picker is broken.

I can fully understand the bitterness you must be feeling because of past choices and how they've turned out but try to use those as lessons and try not repeat them next time. Oh, and don't be in a hurry for "next time" like I seem to be. I know my picker is still broken and if I got into another relationship right now it would probably be with another sicko!

Keep your chin up!
Kellye

sunshinebluesky

nutz.............very well put!!

Tally

I don't REALLY hate men/addicts, was just having a VERY bad night!!

Gabe

Many of us say we hate men...
or women...
when really what we're hating is the disease.

DesertEyes

I hate what the disease has done to the woman I love with all my heart and soul. And I hate what I allowed the disease to do to me.

I love that there is a program of recovery where people like me can go hide while I heal. I love that I have another chance at life, and that I am not so damaged that I can no longer feel.

The truth is, I don't hate. I just hurt all the way to my very soul, and it hurts so very much that the only way I can deal with it is to let it out a little at a time disguised as hate.

Mike :-)

denny57

OMG I might never have believed that - but that is exactly what I do so often. Usually it's disguised as anger, but just yesterday I said aloud "I hate him for what he's done." Then my Al-Anon tools showed up and I used them. But I guess it is one of the ways we deal with the hurt.