I need a shoulder to cry on
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I need a shoulder to cry on
Today is my 10th day without drinking and I am feeling SOOOO DEPRESSED! I thought it was suppose to get better. I feel so sad. I am home by myself and I want to so bad to go buy a bottle of wine because it sure is better than feeling like this. Please is there any hope for me.
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
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Theresa, my tenth day was hell. I know there is hope because I am not abusing, have not been abusing for over 150 days.
My emotions are still recovering from all the time that I spent hiding them behind the abuse of my DOC. It is taking a while to get used to feeling them again, but day by day I am begining to balance them out.
My emotions are still recovering from all the time that I spent hiding them behind the abuse of my DOC. It is taking a while to get used to feeling them again, but day by day I am begining to balance them out.
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Hi Theresa,
Congratulations on 10 sober days! That's great!
I think the question I have for you is what else are you doing to help yourself recover? Stopping drinking is hard but it is only the beginning of the process. That's when the real journey begins. It might be a good idea to use a journal to track your recovery and your emotions. Also, maybe you could begin to get more physical exercise. That helps a lot, too. And, above all, be patient with yourself. 10 days is a great accomplishment, but it is still early and will take awhile for you to physically and emotionally recover.
Congratulations on 10 sober days! That's great!
I think the question I have for you is what else are you doing to help yourself recover? Stopping drinking is hard but it is only the beginning of the process. That's when the real journey begins. It might be a good idea to use a journal to track your recovery and your emotions. Also, maybe you could begin to get more physical exercise. That helps a lot, too. And, above all, be patient with yourself. 10 days is a great accomplishment, but it is still early and will take awhile for you to physically and emotionally recover.
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Hi bymyself,
I know the feeling, I spend a lot of time alone, and often that is when I want a drink. I dont know where you live, but surely there is something you can do. I like to walk, can you take a long walk? Or if it is cold, most gyms will give you a one day pass hopeing you will join, might kill an hour or so for ya, and tire you out. I have less interest in drinking when I am already physically tired. Do you have a SO, get them to take you somewhere where alcohol is not welcome, if you can. Visit a relative with childred (I always felt guilty loaded around children)
Hope this helps, keep posting, too, we're here!
S
I know the feeling, I spend a lot of time alone, and often that is when I want a drink. I dont know where you live, but surely there is something you can do. I like to walk, can you take a long walk? Or if it is cold, most gyms will give you a one day pass hopeing you will join, might kill an hour or so for ya, and tire you out. I have less interest in drinking when I am already physically tired. Do you have a SO, get them to take you somewhere where alcohol is not welcome, if you can. Visit a relative with childred (I always felt guilty loaded around children)
Hope this helps, keep posting, too, we're here!
S
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Theresa-
I vividly remember my 10th day without drinking (it was only 150 days ago). That was the day I decided to go to an AA meeting. I was feeling depressed, alone, hopless, shameful, guilty, and like I was lost. When I went to that AA meeting, my life changed. I never ever thought I'd become an "AA person", but I am.
Congrads on 10 days!! That's a major accomplishment. Don't beat yourself up. You deserve a pat on the back. If you are anything like me, it's a miracle to be sober. Keep coming back to SR. Perhaps you can read about different recovery programs, and find one which is right for you. Remember, above all, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We all struggle, and we must help eachother.
I wish you peace and serenity on your 10th day. Hang in there.
chip
I vividly remember my 10th day without drinking (it was only 150 days ago). That was the day I decided to go to an AA meeting. I was feeling depressed, alone, hopless, shameful, guilty, and like I was lost. When I went to that AA meeting, my life changed. I never ever thought I'd become an "AA person", but I am.
Congrads on 10 days!! That's a major accomplishment. Don't beat yourself up. You deserve a pat on the back. If you are anything like me, it's a miracle to be sober. Keep coming back to SR. Perhaps you can read about different recovery programs, and find one which is right for you. Remember, above all, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We all struggle, and we must help eachother.
I wish you peace and serenity on your 10th day. Hang in there.
chip
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Go ahead and cry. It's OK here.
Once you've finished heed the advice of some others here...go do something. I originally had the excuse that I couldn't get out and do anything because I had my son with me...then I found out how much he loves going out with me no matter if it's a walk around the block, a trip to the pet store (just to look) or anything. He was tired of being cooped up in the house with me when I had my fist firmly gripped around a bottle of beer. So, no matter what your excuse is, that's all it is...an excuse...I've learned it's all part of the "magical thinking" that came along with addiction and we need to beat it off with a stick every now and again.
(I'm not hitting you...I'm hitting those magical thoughts).
You can do it! You've made it this far and that shows a lot of strength.
Once you've finished heed the advice of some others here...go do something. I originally had the excuse that I couldn't get out and do anything because I had my son with me...then I found out how much he loves going out with me no matter if it's a walk around the block, a trip to the pet store (just to look) or anything. He was tired of being cooped up in the house with me when I had my fist firmly gripped around a bottle of beer. So, no matter what your excuse is, that's all it is...an excuse...I've learned it's all part of the "magical thinking" that came along with addiction and we need to beat it off with a stick every now and again.
(I'm not hitting you...I'm hitting those magical thoughts).You can do it! You've made it this far and that shows a lot of strength.
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((bymyself))) no your're not! how strong and brave are you? (((huge hugs))) with you my friend. never forget how beautlful, capable and strong you are. you must be, other wise youd have given up a long time ago! keep warm, and know that you've got love and support from me!
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Hi Theresa!
Don't get the wine hon, you'd regret it if you did and it wouldn't make you feel better, you'd only feel guilty and regret it and wish you hadn't. I'm talking as if I already know you but I know that you sound just like me when I'm thinking of buying wine so I feel like I know you in a way. Please don't buy wine. Pm me instead! I don't get out much so do your bit for charity and send me a pm instead!
((((hugs)))))
I won't do it if you won't!
Don't get the wine hon, you'd regret it if you did and it wouldn't make you feel better, you'd only feel guilty and regret it and wish you hadn't. I'm talking as if I already know you but I know that you sound just like me when I'm thinking of buying wine so I feel like I know you in a way. Please don't buy wine. Pm me instead! I don't get out much so do your bit for charity and send me a pm instead!
((((hugs)))))I won't do it if you won't!
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Hi bymyself
Congratulations on your 10 days sober!
My old re-hab counselor explained my nervousness and restless feelings and racing thoughts in early sobriety this way. The human brain stores memories and thoughts or ideas in pathways of neurons. The damage I had done through years of drugging and drinking had burned or destroyed some of those pathways. I knew I had learned particular facts but couldn't "find" them. In early sobriety, my brain, now free from the constant pounding that drugs and alcohol had been giving it, was working diligently at restoring connections and finding new pathways for thought and memory. She told me that it would be entirely possible that one day I would suddenly recall a happy moment in my life or the smell of one of my favorite food. She said that this was nothing more than evidence of healing. My brain had finally found a way to access that pathway. So the racing thoughts, the sadness was just my brain trying to sort out and make sense of how all that information should be organized. It will change.
Peace and Love
Ivan
Congratulations on your 10 days sober!
My old re-hab counselor explained my nervousness and restless feelings and racing thoughts in early sobriety this way. The human brain stores memories and thoughts or ideas in pathways of neurons. The damage I had done through years of drugging and drinking had burned or destroyed some of those pathways. I knew I had learned particular facts but couldn't "find" them. In early sobriety, my brain, now free from the constant pounding that drugs and alcohol had been giving it, was working diligently at restoring connections and finding new pathways for thought and memory. She told me that it would be entirely possible that one day I would suddenly recall a happy moment in my life or the smell of one of my favorite food. She said that this was nothing more than evidence of healing. My brain had finally found a way to access that pathway. So the racing thoughts, the sadness was just my brain trying to sort out and make sense of how all that information should be organized. It will change.
Peace and Love
Ivan
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Wow! bloody hell! that's some seriously interesting information Ivan! Very interesting! Fascinating! I never knew that but it's very interesting. I look forward to hearing more!
Peace and love to you too mate, what a great post!
Fascinating! I never knew that but it's very interesting. I look forward to hearing more! Peace and love to you too mate, what a great post!
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Hi Bymyself,
I too am by myself. I live with my 12 year old and often spend nights alone after he has gone to bed. My vice is wine too. The bottle won't bring someone to you it will only numb the feeling of loneliness until the next morning. Then the process repeats itself again.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. I find if I go visit people, no one knows I drink so I can't drink in front of them. Go see a friend, go see your mum (mine drives me nuts and she would freak if she knew I had a problem) but it gets me out. Go for a walk, go lie in the grass under a tree. Go out but you don't have to do anything strenuous just get some fresh air. We sit inside way too much cause our houses are too nice and comfortable. If we lived in caves we wouldn't sit inside all day ...LOL! We should get back to our roots and act primative sometimes. Get away from the lonely place. Start to enjoy your own company. Put some music on and light some candles or incense. Make your space lovely, nice smelling and warm and cosy. Put a daggy movie on like Grease or Dirting Dancing and be drawn into the movie.
There is lots of hope for you because you posted here before actioning your thoughts. Thats huge. You are thinking and listening to your body but not actioning its outcry. You can beat it and are. 10 days is amazing.
Hang in their Theresa. This too shall pass. You will feel emotions and ups and downs just let them take their course but don't give in.
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I too am by myself. I live with my 12 year old and often spend nights alone after he has gone to bed. My vice is wine too. The bottle won't bring someone to you it will only numb the feeling of loneliness until the next morning. Then the process repeats itself again.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. I find if I go visit people, no one knows I drink so I can't drink in front of them. Go see a friend, go see your mum (mine drives me nuts and she would freak if she knew I had a problem) but it gets me out. Go for a walk, go lie in the grass under a tree. Go out but you don't have to do anything strenuous just get some fresh air. We sit inside way too much cause our houses are too nice and comfortable. If we lived in caves we wouldn't sit inside all day ...LOL! We should get back to our roots and act primative sometimes. Get away from the lonely place. Start to enjoy your own company. Put some music on and light some candles or incense. Make your space lovely, nice smelling and warm and cosy. Put a daggy movie on like Grease or Dirting Dancing and be drawn into the movie.
There is lots of hope for you because you posted here before actioning your thoughts. Thats huge. You are thinking and listening to your body but not actioning its outcry. You can beat it and are. 10 days is amazing.
Hang in their Theresa. This too shall pass. You will feel emotions and ups and downs just let them take their course but don't give in.
I'm here for you
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Originally Posted by bymyself
Today is my 10th day without drinking and I am feeling SOOOO DEPRESSED! I thought it was suppose to get better. I feel so sad. I am home by myself and I want to so bad to go buy a bottle of wine because it sure is better than feeling like this. Please is there any hope for me.
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
that was 25 years ago... Still busy - still changing and very happy with my life..
My best to you.. I know how hard the roller coaster of early sobriety can be.
Linda C. ( visit my profile - there is a link to my sobriety blog - if interested)
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Thank you all so much for replying. Your support and response is so important to me. Well I didn't buy the bottle of wine so instead I bought pizza and a box of cream puffs. So I ate the pizza and then the cream puffs with alot of milk. It was so good. Not the healthiest food but at least it wasn't wine.
My 11th day today and I had horrible anxiety and I know it's due to not drinking, I just don't like it when it happens while I'm driving, so I came right home and took an Ativan to help me. And I'm feeling more relaxed now. I really hope the anxiety goes away it's such a horrible feeling.
Thank you all again,
Theresa
My 11th day today and I had horrible anxiety and I know it's due to not drinking, I just don't like it when it happens while I'm driving, so I came right home and took an Ativan to help me. And I'm feeling more relaxed now. I really hope the anxiety goes away it's such a horrible feeling.
Thank you all again,
Theresa
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Originally Posted by Timebuster
Hi bymyself
Congratulations on your 10 days sober!
My old re-hab counselor explained my nervousness and restless feelings and racing thoughts in early sobriety this way. The human brain stores memories and thoughts or ideas in pathways of neurons. The damage I had done through years of drugging and drinking had burned or destroyed some of those pathways. I knew I had learned particular facts but couldn't "find" them. In early sobriety, my brain, now free from the constant pounding that drugs and alcohol had been giving it, was working diligently at restoring connections and finding new pathways for thought and memory. She told me that it would be entirely possible that one day I would suddenly recall a happy moment in my life or the smell of one of my favorite food. She said that this was nothing more than evidence of healing. My brain had finally found a way to access that pathway. So the racing thoughts, the sadness was just my brain trying to sort out and make sense of how all that information should be organized. It will change.
Peace and Love
Ivan
Congratulations on your 10 days sober!
My old re-hab counselor explained my nervousness and restless feelings and racing thoughts in early sobriety this way. The human brain stores memories and thoughts or ideas in pathways of neurons. The damage I had done through years of drugging and drinking had burned or destroyed some of those pathways. I knew I had learned particular facts but couldn't "find" them. In early sobriety, my brain, now free from the constant pounding that drugs and alcohol had been giving it, was working diligently at restoring connections and finding new pathways for thought and memory. She told me that it would be entirely possible that one day I would suddenly recall a happy moment in my life or the smell of one of my favorite food. She said that this was nothing more than evidence of healing. My brain had finally found a way to access that pathway. So the racing thoughts, the sadness was just my brain trying to sort out and make sense of how all that information should be organized. It will change.
Peace and Love
Ivan
Bymyself, I am so glad you didn't drink last night. Hang in there, it just gets easier!
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Originally Posted by Done-With-It
WOW, That is awesome info. I wish I had known that when I was detoxing, lol. Thank you for sharing that.]
Well done Theresa!
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[theresa]. Great big hug. Congratulations on your newfound sobriety.
Make it last. Don't expect too much too soon. Life will continue to happen. There will always be good days and bad days, exhilarating highs and crushing lows, just like with everyone else. Also, in early sobriety, there will be more of them, more often. Things will smooth out if you stay sober.
I've been sober over 17 years. Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together.
Make it last. Don't expect too much too soon. Life will continue to happen. There will always be good days and bad days, exhilarating highs and crushing lows, just like with everyone else. Also, in early sobriety, there will be more of them, more often. Things will smooth out if you stay sober.
I've been sober over 17 years. Remember, I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together.
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Originally Posted by bymyself
Today is my 10th day without drinking and I am feeling SOOOO DEPRESSED! I thought it was suppose to get better. I feel so sad. I am home by myself and I want to so bad to go buy a bottle of wine because it sure is better than feeling like this. Please is there any hope for me.
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
Thank you for listening.
Theresa
Hang in doll. I could add some of these happy icons but that might actually make me drink (joke)
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