jen928

Some of you know the situation with my mom, her health and her drinking. well, last summer she bought a place at the beach (about a four hour drive from me). well, even with her health failing, she's still moving. the movers are coming tomorrow. she'll be in north carolina by thursday.
i know i can't control her drinking or the disease. but not worrying about her health and her passing away down there without me near makes me really scared. she has no one to turn to down there. no friends, no family, nothing. i guess i just need some support right now.

Pick-a-name

(((jen))) Hope that something good is planned for her in this move. I certainly can understand your concerns and feelings. You will both be in my prayers.

elizabeth1979

Hi Jen,

It seems nuts now, but this move may be very freeing for you.
Maybe knowing that she is not just a stones throw away will help you
recover and detach?

gelfling

Gotta agree with Elizabeth.

Hang tough Jen...we're here for you.

(((((((Jen))))))

PaperDolls

Like Elizabeth said, I think you might feel better about this after a while. "Freeing" is a good word.

Stay strong Jen......remember, she's responsible for her and you are responsible for you.

Keep checking in with us. We're here to support you through this.

~doll

denny57

((jen))
It is scary and I'm sorry you have to go through this and see your mom go through it, too. Maybe it will be for the best; try to keep that thought - nothing changes if nothing changes. Try to see it as a potentially positive step. You will always worry - she's your mom - it's what we all do with that worry, not letting it control our lives, etc., that is so important. Take care.

elizabeth1979

The closer I am to the fire, the more it burns.
I never try to get burned, but cant walk away quick enough and it spreads fast!

This is tough because you are right in the thick of it.

Another way to think of it.
You have no mroe control over her safety and drinking when she is close to you than when she is not.
As long as she is drinking, there will be times, when no matter the proximity, you can not help her.

You'll be fine, give it some time and do something nice for yourself!

denny57

((jen))
It is scary and I'm sorry you have to go through this and see your mom go through it, too. Maybe it will be for the best; try to keep that thought - nothing changes if nothing changes. Try to see it as a potentially positive step. You will always worry - she's your mom - it's what we all do with that worry, not letting it control our lives, etc., that is so important. Take care.

cwohio

((jen)) - i believe like some have said above that this is God working in only the ways He knows and this move may help you focus on you. you may even experience some grief.