My Sister
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My Sister
Hey everyone,
There is no direct confrontation when it comes to my sister's drinking. I tried it once and it was not pretty. She didn't speak to me for a while then called me up drunk crying and apologizing but never discussing the issue, just apologizing. I was afraid to bring it up again for fear of losing her or completely freaking her out...eggshells! Since then, it has been ok, but never the same.
I know she doesn't feel it is a problem because she holds down a job and owns a house and it doesn't interfere. I spoke via computer with her as usual, however, this time I told her that I haven't had any wine or anything in a long time. It wasn't fun for me anymore and it became just a bad habit and I have really lost the taste for it. (THANK GOD!)
Anyway, she just kept responding like, Yup, Gotcha, etc.
Living so far away from her, I think about her and I worry so much about her. I am in Greece, she's in NY. I am well educated in alcoholism and alanon and I know I can't change her, but sure a part of me was wishing she would take a look at herself and maybe I could have lit a spark. There is otherwise no reaching out to her or approaching the subject of her drinking with her. Maybe sharing my own experience will help her? Am I so clouded by desperation by wanting my sister to get healthy? I am not going to continue to think about it. I did it and that's it. I feel the only thing I can do is pray for her. Thanks for reading and it is good to share it with those who understand.
Etimee
There is no direct confrontation when it comes to my sister's drinking. I tried it once and it was not pretty. She didn't speak to me for a while then called me up drunk crying and apologizing but never discussing the issue, just apologizing. I was afraid to bring it up again for fear of losing her or completely freaking her out...eggshells! Since then, it has been ok, but never the same.
I know she doesn't feel it is a problem because she holds down a job and owns a house and it doesn't interfere. I spoke via computer with her as usual, however, this time I told her that I haven't had any wine or anything in a long time. It wasn't fun for me anymore and it became just a bad habit and I have really lost the taste for it. (THANK GOD!)
Anyway, she just kept responding like, Yup, Gotcha, etc.
Living so far away from her, I think about her and I worry so much about her. I am in Greece, she's in NY. I am well educated in alcoholism and alanon and I know I can't change her, but sure a part of me was wishing she would take a look at herself and maybe I could have lit a spark. There is otherwise no reaching out to her or approaching the subject of her drinking with her. Maybe sharing my own experience will help her? Am I so clouded by desperation by wanting my sister to get healthy? I am not going to continue to think about it. I did it and that's it. I feel the only thing I can do is pray for her. Thanks for reading and it is good to share it with those who understand.
Etimee
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Location: Melbourne victoria
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Hi there Etimee 
Good to hear from you LOL
I know how you must feel. When I was newly sober i wanted to save the world, and the fact that she is your sister , must make it doubly important for you . But the fact is, you cant do anything except pass on your message. Once you have done that, you have to trust that it will take root at some time when she is ready.
it is so sad, but unfortunately, we cant get them drunk, and we cant get them sober, even tho we would love to
HUGX
Lee
Good to hear from you LOLI know how you must feel. When I was newly sober i wanted to save the world, and the fact that she is your sister , must make it doubly important for you . But the fact is, you cant do anything except pass on your message. Once you have done that, you have to trust that it will take root at some time when she is ready.
it is so sad, but unfortunately, we cant get them drunk, and we cant get them sober, even tho we would love to
HUGX
Lee
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