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Big Book Quote for the Day (1/6)
The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations
with his children. Their young minds were impressionable while he
was drinking. Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for
what he has done to them and to their mother. The children are
sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot
seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after
their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.
In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they
will let him know it."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The Family Afterward, pg. 134~
with his children. Their young minds were impressionable while he
was drinking. Without saying so, they may cordially hate him for
what he has done to them and to their mother. The children are
sometimes dominated by a pathetic hardness and cynicism. They cannot
seem to forgive and forget. This may hang on for months, long after
their mother has accepted dad's new way of living and thinking.
In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they
will let him know it."
~Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition, The Family Afterward, pg. 134~
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: whiting, nj
Posts: 7
Some of my children blame me for their behavior and this has been going on since I have been in recovery for 22 years. They lie about me to each other and people outside of our family. I have tried very hard to maintain a relationship with them over the yearsby people pleaseing and they have just treated me like a bad child. I cannot alow this behavior anymore and they are no longer in my life and it really hurtss but not as much as it hurt to be in their company and be either ignored or put down.
Need to touch base with anyone who can identify
Need to touch base with anyone who can identify
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Location: ohio
Posts: 322
anglo
you have been in recovery a long time. I am sorry your
children have been unforgiving,surely you were able to
forgive yourself for any wrong doing.
God bless you I pray that your grown children enter
a recovery program of their own, in the mean time you
have found a way to distance yourself,it must be very hard.
Keep coming to these rooms, there is a peace and shared
hurts.
Hugs to you
liddy
you have been in recovery a long time. I am sorry your
children have been unforgiving,surely you were able to
forgive yourself for any wrong doing.
God bless you I pray that your grown children enter
a recovery program of their own, in the mean time you
have found a way to distance yourself,it must be very hard.
Keep coming to these rooms, there is a peace and shared
hurts.
Hugs to you
liddy
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: whiting, nj
Posts: 7
Thanks Libby,
When I wrote this I was unable to lsleep and just thought there had to be someone out there who would understand.
I do have many years in program and I guess this is the first time I am truely letting go and as I write this I can hear the words from literature of long ago from the Lord as he said, "but my child, you never did let go"
Yes, that is the answer and now as I write another old thought is coming to me, "I am free of worry and concern about my dear ones, as God is in charge, not I"
I have been in bed for days fighting some sort of bug but I think the main problem has been depression and the cloud is beginning to lift.
Thank you and it is time I got myself to an Alon meeting, or at least picked up the phone.
Hugs and Blessings, Anglo
When I wrote this I was unable to lsleep and just thought there had to be someone out there who would understand.
I do have many years in program and I guess this is the first time I am truely letting go and as I write this I can hear the words from literature of long ago from the Lord as he said, "but my child, you never did let go"
Yes, that is the answer and now as I write another old thought is coming to me, "I am free of worry and concern about my dear ones, as God is in charge, not I"
I have been in bed for days fighting some sort of bug but I think the main problem has been depression and the cloud is beginning to lift.
Thank you and it is time I got myself to an Alon meeting, or at least picked up the phone.
Hugs and Blessings, Anglo
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