Mr. Christian

Can someone tell me why I feel GUILTY about filing by my self, and about seeing a divorce attorney on Saturday?

I feel like I betrayed her for some reason.
Is this crazy?

Zoey

Don't feel guilty, she can't, don't or won't,feel guilty, the alcohol doesn't allow that.
Think of it all as dealing with a lot pf alcohol, not a human.

it is sad, but she wants to stay in her alcoholic world, so no need for anyone to feel guilty. HUGS

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rivercitybelle

Because you had hoped for a different outcome. You hoped you would have been dealing with a sober responsible person. Unfortunately that didn't happen.

Your hand was forced by her actions or lack thereof. You had to do what you had to do. Alcohol is an equal opportunity destroyer. We always have a choice, we just may not always like what they are.

You need to take care of you.

CatsTail

Mr. Christian,

As co-dependents we are wonderful at feeling guilty when we take steps for OURSELVES.

She has made her choice and now you are making yours for you. Take care of you.

Ngaire

Mr. Christian

_ I know all this is correct.

I have to keep telling myself that I did all I could for "US" and now it is just "MYSELF".

I've been around more and more program people this week, so I'm keeping busy.
Another meeting tonight might be in order.

cwohio

bingo! trust me mr. c - you are not alone, but the more we continue our recovery the less guilt we will feel for doing what is best for the only person we can - US!

take care and know that to continue the madness is just that, madness!

dollydo

Simply put....You are human...

Continue to work on your recovery, this too will pass...life goes on...live it!

Dolly

gelfling

Time for you to think....ME ME ME...IT'S ALL ABOUT ME. The US days are gone forever. You've been given the opportunity to continue living a wonderful and happy life. Go for it!!!

robina

You are a person in recovery, which means you are capable of feeling. As we get better, we begin to feel the whole range of human emotions. Unfortunately, some emotions are painful and uncomfortable.

Take care of yourself.

guyinNC

Because you are a nice, decent human being. But you have to move on.....she will not recognize are care about your concerns, feelings, financial headaches. There is only her addiction!

cloudy

have had that feeling before as well in a similar situation. good advice given above :-) keep on that path your on MC, you're doing great

Kitchu

I really like all the advice that all of you have given Mr. Christian. I am walking a thin line deciding whether to break off my 7 year relationship with my A boy/F. I am ready for more and I don't think he can give it to me like I need it. Oh but the guilt of leaving him, the depression that may follow and the loneliness I may feel. God please give me the strength and courage to make the right decision!!

All of you are wonderful!!
Kitchu -new comer

Mr. Christian

Hi Kitchu,

Alot has happened on this path of mine, she left alomost two years ago and is at her worse now.

Yes the loneliness is bad, very bad I wont kid you.

But the lef I lead right now is with less stress until she pops up.

There is a lot to read on this site.
Take your time.

EndOfRoadWife

C- Probably because when you married her, you wanted to be married to her forever..You had wanted to grow old together...Addiction destroys hopes, dreams and the future....